I have three groomsmen I need some help with. My fiance thinks everything will be fine and work itself out, but I'm losing patience now that we're about to send out the invitations and our wedding date is quickly approaching.
Groomsman A has been MIA for the past nine months. I was able to get him to respond to one email regarding the blurb on our wedding website and getting a photo, but other than that -- nothing. My fiance didn't order him a tie because he didn't know if this guy had his suit yet. When asked, the groomsman said, "I'll get it by the wedding, don't worry." I sent him an email a few days ago and no response. I followed up with a text today and still nothing. I'm leaning towards cutting him from the wedding party, but my fiance wants to give him more time.
Groomsman B says he's trying to come up with the money for the suit. My fiance didn't want to give any hard deadlines, but I finally emailed him and Groomsman A and told them that they needed to be fitted and have the suits ordered by January 30 -- exactly two months from the wedding date. I wouldn't be so strict about the timing if they weren't ordering custom suits (the groomsmen decided to go this route, I didn't mandate it). He said he should be able to get it by then...but right now I'm just waiting like -____________-
Groomsman C is our best man. Before I sent out the save the dates, I asked the wedding party if they were planning on bringing a guest. When we made the first draft of the list, everyone in the wedding party was allotted a plus one. After I asked everyone, I got more specific numbers and the names of their guests. Months later, the best man has realized that the majority of the groomsmen are bringing their girlfriends and he's feeling left out. He dumped his girlfriend of two years, the one who he brought to the dinner where my fiance proposed to me, right before the save the dates went out. He now wants to bring a girl he's casually seeing. I'm just not interested in bending over backwards to squeeze this extra person on the guest list. He hasn't gotten his suit yet, hasn't been helpful -- at one point, my fiance was planning his own bachelor party. His disorganization and lack of planning has cost my fiance's brother hundreds of dollars in a plane ticket to a bachelor party location that they're no longer going to. But now I'm supposed to be like, "sure, bring this extra person I don't know that I have to pay for..." The best man is my fiance's friend from college and several people on the guest list are also from the same school, same class year, so he wouldn't be alone with no friends.
Anyway, any advice would be helpful. Regarding the best man, my MOH said, "My policy would be - if you weren't relevant at the time of the engagement or when the save the dates went out, then you can't change it later."
