Groomsmen drama

Lord help your bridal party.

Also, I can't take anyone who uses "cuz" in a sentence seriously.

@FutureMrs.VV I sincerely hoping that you are being sarcastic

I appreciate all the constructive criticism! @Lori I will be using that quote quite often I have a feeling! Thanks! I am glad that a few of you understood my real concern: the reason groomsman #2 didn't show. Again, thanks for those who shared constructive criticism!

@EmmyJ yes I was. I think Faith would be one of "those" brides who complains that her bridesmaid got pregnant or a tattoo.

Not to be a b but you should wait to choose your bridal party, 2 years out is a very long time

also you can't expect people to show up to every party, its just a party for you guys its not really a thing for the wedding its a hey your engaged party

Well, at this point you can't change what's happened in the past. You can only move on and change how you might act in the future... Before you lose your mind over small things, try to put yourself in their position. Don't lose friends over your wedding. A wedding lasts one night, friendship is for life!

I wouldn't worry about it. I'm sure they will be there the day of and you have two years to see if they flake on anything else. Let your FH worry about the groomsman. Try to lower your expectations. Are they all local?

I think I would just be repeating what others have said. The engagement party, and what bridal party members can attend, is very low on the scale of events for a bridal party to attend. I'm sure it would have been nice for all of them to attend, but just a word of advice, having "expectations" like that doesn't usually translate well. I wouldn't judge these GM, or write them off at this point, simply because they didn't want to go to an engagement party. I would stop stressing. These are friends to you and your FH, first and foremost, and they will hopefully remain your friends long after you guys are no longer considered "bride and groom."

@FutureMrs.VV Oh thank god! and yes, I bet you are right on the tattoo/pregnancy thing.

Many of you are so quick to judge! You know nothing more about me than the info I have shared. So deducing what kind of person I am is a lot far fetched. I didn't flip out on anyone, didn't write anyone off, never considered kicking anyone out, didn't cause a scene of any kind. In fact, I didn't even say anything to anyone beside FH that night. The mother offered the info since she was worried the reason groomsman #2 didn't show would still be valid on wedding day. Also, Picking the bridal party this far out isn't all that crazy considering everyone in it has been close friends for at least 8 years. Again, thanks for the constructive criticism!

I have a question that doesn't relate to the bridal-partyness.... I thought engagement parties were not hosted by the couple. Although OP I think you are reading a little into it. The saying around here (which is 100% true) no one will be as excited about your wedding than you are. Try to calm down and enjoy the experience because too many BP expectations ruins friendships a lot of the time, take the BP as they are. I know one of my girls is the worst at following through, and so I won't give her many tasks, and def not any I care about too much just because flakeyness is her nature. It's a while before you or I have to actually delegate any duties, so as a lot of the ladies do around here when their stressed, sit back and pour yourself some vino!

@futuremrs.jkr we are not doing anything traditionally. We are paying for everything ourselves, simply because we don't want friends and family to have to pay for anything just because we are getting married. We have both been in several weddings and always end up spending hundreds of dollars. Sometimes money we couldn't really afford to spend but did anyway, because we wanted to be there for our friends. So we will pay for the bridesmaids' dresses, their hair and shoes, the groomsmen's ensemble, ect.

I think your taking too much offence and not hearing the message the way it is intended. A majority of these women are a lot farther along planning than you are and have a bit more insight. It's hard when it's not in your favor, but a good amount of the time, these ladies are right.

I got a newsflash for you: paying for everything yourselves doesn't make you untraditional. It just makes you generous. Now don't let that go to your head.

Untraditional is "hey, guys! Instead of flowers, I think I want to drag my newborn baby on my train down the aisle behind me!"

(Please don't do that.)