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Mrs. Araj
Expert August 2018

Groomsman Trouble

Mrs. Araj, on July 13, 2018 at 7:50 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 23

Good Morning Everyone!!! I am beyond frustrated and not sure how to handle the situation. My wedding is August 11th down in Florida, which means half of our guests are traveling for the wedding. I just found out last night that one of the groomsmen won't even land in Florida until 3pm the day of the...

Good Morning Everyone!!! I am beyond frustrated and not sure how to handle the situation. My wedding is August 11th down in Florida, which means half of our guests are traveling for the wedding. I just found out last night that one of the groomsmen won't even land in Florida until 3pm the day of the wedding. The airport is 1.5hr drive from the venue and our ceremony is supposed to start at 4:30. So at best, by the time he picks up his luggage and leaves the airport, he won't arrive at the wedding until 5pm when the ceremony is over. My fiance still wants him to be a groomsman and be in all of our wedding pictures, but to me I don't think he should be since he won't even be there for the ceremony. He will miss getting ready with the boys, the ceremony, and I think cocktail hour too. What is even more frustrating is that my fiance already gave him a very expensive groomsman gift, he has had 10 months to plan his travel, and he is already on our printed programs. We asked and gave all wedding party members the details 10 months in advance just to avoid this problem. I told my fiance he should talk to him and have him get his money back for the tux since he won't be in the wedding anyway, which he did not like. Do you think I'm being unfair by asking him to not be part of the wedding if he can't even make it to the ceremony? He doesn't even have a good excuse to why he booked his flight so late. Thanks for letting me vent. Have a good Friday everyone!

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  • T
    Expert May 2010
    Theresa ·
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    You choose a bridal party because of they're important to you, and you want them to be in the bridal party. Members of bridal parties have 1 job: be at the ceremony as a member of the bridal party. Yes, I think it's weird for someone in the bridal party to not actually be in the bridal party, then expect to be in pictures of the bridal party.

    If he shows up on time for pictures, and the bride and groom don't mind including him, great. But as a another poster said, at that point he's just a guest who matches the groomsmen.

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  • Jen
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    Jen ·
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    I'd let my FH handle this however he wants to. I tend to agree with your thought process but since it's his friend I think he should be in charge of how this plays out, not you.

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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·
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    This! Kicking people out of the wedding part is a friendship ending move. I'm sure the gm would rather be there on time but life happens. Maybe he couldn't afford to book a flight before now. Who knows. It is what it is now.

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