Groomsman refuses to wear a tie

I feel like this is more of I do not want to thing then a legit issue. Tell him what MFB said

What is your fh's opinion? Does he want the gm or the uniform look?

I think since your BMs are in different styles to do different ties in the same color palette. I think that would be really cute. And then that can be your groomsmen gift is the ties and you can pick one for each based on personality. That way it is more unique to each person.

Have FH tell him he is wearing it for the wedding and pictures afterwards, then he can rip it off if it bothers him so or have him just be a guest. That's really childish of him...

He has a problem with a neck tie but not a bolo? That's weird.

Don't make this an argument. "This is the attire we've chosen for the groomsman. If this is problematic for you, we understand and you'd be welcome to come just as a guest, but this isn't up for debate."

The tie needs to be worn for max an hour - for pictures and the ceremony. After that, he can take it off. Either way, let FH handle this.

What @MFB said.

The only thing I can think of is to see if you can find a clip on bowtie in the same color. If you can't find one (or don't feel like looking for one!), tell him to suck it up and deal with it for the ceremony and pictures.

I agree that differing ties can be pulled off. But I don't think different styles/colors of ties...... and one bolo tie off by himself... would look put together. I concur with Mrs. Fall. This is what we've chosen. If you do not wish to wear it, we will still welcome your company as a guest.

This is really no different than all of the BMs wearing a long gown in shades of blue, and one of them says "Nope!" I'm only wearing a knee-length in yellow.

Same thoughts as @Stephanie ..... I think this guy just wants to wear a bolo and is coming up with excuses... I mean seriously he cannot wear a tie or bowties because of things around his neck but a bolo tie is okay? I'm calling his bluff...

Tell him to suck it up. A bolo tie isn't necessarily appropriate for a wedding...especially if all the others are wearing regular ties or bow ties. Like the others said- either wear it or be a guest. Edit: or find a clip on tie version? Then his argument is invalid.

We had a groomsman refuse to wear the tie and all of them refuse to wear the suspenders (my husband told them he thought they looked dumb [thanks babe!!]). I was so disappointed. He stood out like a sore thumb in all of the pictures and I was really disappointed. We gifted them (as a prop not as an actual gift) and I was so frustrated.

I'd just tell him if he doesn't like it he can certainly attend as a guest.

If you can find a clip on bow tie in the same colour then he has no excuse. Nothing is around his neck.

Also, I would call him out so fast on the bolo tie thing that he is going to wish he just went with the plan in the first place.

Tell him to suck it up or only come as a guest. Wearing what you're asked to wear is the one job you have as a wedding party member. If he can't do that he can attend as a guest and wear whatever he wants

Bitches only live once .. BOLO!!!

ETA: I hate bolo ties!!

I personally like the look of bolo ties having lived in the SW. It does not have the same feel as regular neckties because of where it connects and you can move the slide down past the neck. Not sure you can argue strict uniformity since your BMs have different dresses and we're talking just an accessory here. What does your FH say? It's his friend and wedding party too!

That makes absolutely no sense. DO NOT accommodate his BS. Have FH tell him either he wears a tie for a couple of hours, or he can be a guest.

I wouldnt even entertain this. Wear it or come as a guest. Simple.

Why would he agree to be a GROOMSMAN in a WEDDING and think it's okay to refuse wearing a tie? I can't get past that. That's part of standard GM attire. No fucking bolo tie. Those things are hideous.

What's your FH's opinion? It's his bridal party. If he doesn't care, it's a moot point.