I need some opinions. My mother and I are in a fight because I don’t want my brother (who I don’t talk to) to stand up in my wedding. She pulled the “Hes your only brother” card, but in my opinion it should be my choice and if we don’t talk or even get along, why would I want him up there? Plus he most likely won’t give a care in the world about it anyways.
For background, my fiancé and I wanted to elope but we decided to have a wedding to make our families happy, yet if I choose what I want, my mother is mad either way. It seems like there’s no way to make her happy. For background she is very overbearing and controlling, she even told me my venue need a “lot” of work decor wise and said she wants flowers for even the bathroom because it’s so “plain”. Very materialistic. (It is a barn with reclaimed wood, string lights, and industrial decor, it’s beautiful!) This is just one of the many fights we’ve had ALREADY. And I’m not even getting married until October 2021.
Should I let my brother stand up to appease my mom and keep the peace or should I just do what I want? I want it to be a happy day with no fighting, (she is the type to hold a grudge and completely ruin the day for us) but I also want to do what I want for MY day. I know I can’t please everyone.
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