Groomsmaid/Groomswoman in Wedding

YES absolutely do it! We had a bridesman and it meant the world to me!!

She should be with him. People need to go past the old ideas.

Totally on board with you. We have bridesmen and a groomslady!

I think it's fine having her stand with him. My FH is actually "MOH" for one of his female friends.

Have her stand on his side. Who cares what anyone says... it's your wedding.

For the love of Pete. I had two bridesmen, and maybe because I'm old, or cranky, or just generally have a take no shit attitude, I heard nothin' from nobody.

If I had, PPs have pretty much covered what I would have have said if I'd heard from naysayers.

Groomswoman for the win. My brother is my Bridesman and while he gets along with my FH he's my brother and closer to me so I want him standing by my side. People who have comments about it can walk, because they don't matter. Have your nearest and dearest up next to you on your day

Ignore people's stupid comments. My MOH is my best guy friend - calling him the Man of Honor. It's your wedding; do what makes you and FI happy.

It's totally fine. I've been to a few weddings with mixed gender sides and it works fine. I'm sure ours will end up being that way actually. I say do whatever feels right for you guys.

I have a bridesman. just because he's a guy standing on my side ive gotten some word about it from my family but i dont care. FH loves him and he's been one of my best friends since our first year in college. why would i put him on his side? that doesnt make any sense, he doesnt know him well enough to stand with FH.

i say do it. its his friend and if you both like her and want to include her in this way, there's no problem with it.

We had a bestwoman. She was honored her brother asked and it worked out beautifully. It would have been weird for her to be a BM as I don't know her well and my BM were all my friends growing up - so not super fun for her. She did get her hair and make-up done with us in the morning before meeting her brother and other groomsmen for lunch, it was great.

Totally in favor of the groomsmaid idea! The only question would be if she should wear the same thing as your bridesmaids but just stand on his side, or if she should wear something different

My fiance is having 2 groomsmaids. They are being given the choice of wearing dress or suit and bouquet/flower brooch.

We have received side eye for this decision, but those people can go fuck themselves.

H had two groomswomen (cousin and friend) and I had a bridesman (brother). He wore the same suits as the guys but with a tie in my colors. They wore grey dresses instead of grey suits. It worked and we had the people next to us that we wanted.

Do what you want! We don't have "bridesmaids" or "groomsmen" (there is not groom). We have an "I Do Krewe". We will have Dress, suit, dress on my side and suit, dress, suit on FW side. Don't let other people tell you how to do these kinds of things, do what makes the most sense.

My MOH is my best friend since middle school who just happens to be a straight man. My mom clutched her pearls but she got over it fairly quickly when I pointed out all the things/times/issues etc that man has been with me through and that he's as much of a brother to me as my blood brother. Now she'll fight anyone that questions the decision

Gender is a social construct.

we just picked the people we love the most and i think it looked bomb as hell.

My FH has a best woman, she will probably wear a grey dress.

My daughter is going to have her 2 brothers as bridesmen on her side, along with her sister and female cousin as MOH and bridesmaid. I explained this to my mother, who seemed to understand this. (Probably helped that they are her brothers. I'm quite sure she's never seen a wedding like this before, since I haven't myself, either.)

Please be patient (but you don't need to cave in, or feel defensive) with older generations who have never seen anything like this, and it's startling to them. If done right, and explained with patience and love, you have the opportunity to change people's view on what is appropriate in a wedding.