Groomsmaid/Groomswoman in Wedding

I think it's fine having her stand with your FH.

Groomswoman ftw.

My FH wants his sister to stand on his side and people keep saying I should just have her on my side, but I think we are just going to have her stand on his side because that is what he wants. I say do whatever you guys want!

THIS. I'm with you and I was in the same boat this entire engagement, only with a male maid of honor. My one bridesmaid's first question when I asked her to be a bridesmaid was, "So (MOH) is gonna be FH's best man, right? And I'm your maid of honor?" I was like...no, MOH is literally my best friend in the world, he's my right hand. FH's best man is his own choice, and he chose his best friend too. MOH and FH are friends, but not like I am with my MOH.

We got tons of comments from people. Not directly disagreeing with me, but side remarks. "What about your bridal shower and bachelorette? He can't possibly know how to plan those." Neither does my bridesmaid or even myself. Google exists for a reason. "Well he's getting ready with FH on the wedding day, right? Won't you be uncomfortable having a man with you while you're getting dressed?" Nope. Shockingly my friends have respect enough to look away when I'm disrobing regardless. "Won't your husband be upset that another guy sees you before he does?" Nope. I'm not marrying anyone else. "Why not a groomsman?" Because he's MY friend. "I bet he just said yes to you because he felt like he couldn't say no." I sure hope not. I trust that he made the decision because he loves me and wants to be with me on my wedding day. "Is he gay? He must be." No. None of your business anyway. "Is he wearing a dress or is your bridesmaid wearing a suit?" Why is this even a question you're asking me in 2017??

I mostly got comments saying it would ruin pictures, I would miss out on wedding milestones, and I'll regret it because he's gonna stop being my friend after "forcing" him to do this for me. I mean, I'm not super feminine anyway, and even if I were, he'd have sucked it up and gone to a spa day with me if I wanted that.

Choose who YOU want above all else and never let anyone tell you differently! These are YOUR friends. Male, female, anywhere on the spectrum, they belong where you want them to be as an honored guest at your wedding. Don't make someone a bridesmaid just because they're a female gender or sex. It means nothing in 2017. And defend your FH's decision if people give you shit. Personal experience: Relatives started pulling my FH aside and asking him in private to convince me to change my MOH so he's at least not front and center (apparently taking away from the groom?) or to totally kick him from my side. I appreciated FH standing up and telling those people to back off when I wasn't even approached.

You do what is best for you. My FH has a good friend who is a girl. We are having her on my side. And my brother will be on his side. But we like it that way. If that doesn't work for you, then have different sexes on both sides. All that matters is everyone you guys want up there is there.

I like it!

Do it!! I was a groomsmaid!

I have lots of couples who do this; your BP, in theory, is composed of the people that mean the most to you personally. They should stand on your side. I personally see that this is really well accepted when they com down the aisle too!

I love it! Do what you and FH feel comfortable with you can't make everyone happy

Do what you want! It's your wedding. I've seen this done before and it didn't bother me. Some people are more traditional and will talk about it or be uncomfortable, but ultimately it's your day.

My FH's entire wedding party is female! Three of them are married with kids and will wear dresses and the other two will be in suits! They are who are closest to him and I got a lot of flack from my side of the family for a long time but it's who is his closest friends and family ( sister is his maid of honor) and it's our decision!

Thank you everyone! Your comments and advice are much appreciated!

My FH is having a groomswoman and I have a Matron and a Maid of honor! She will get ready with us in the morning and then hang out with the guys until the ceremony! It's your day just be true to yourself!

I'm all in favor. At my first wedding (back in 1977), sister was MOH. However, because no one even thought about attendants of the opposite gender, my brother wasn't included at all. I've always regretted the fact that he wasn't included.

Second wedding was same-sex. But we made sure my son was included as "dude of honor."

We had a grooms woman (Hs sister) and I had a bridesmaid that didn't want to wear a dress. Hs sister was totally excited to stand with her brother on his big day.

I had a bridesman and thought it was perfect.

I've been having a similar reaction to my two bridesmen. She absolutely should be on his side as she is his friend

I'm having my male best friend stand on my side. Some have asked why he's not standing with FH but he's my best friend. I want him with me. It's your guys day and it's nice he wants to honor his friend.

Traditionally she should be on your side. Both H and I have good friends of the opposite sex. We asked his friend to read in the wedding because I didn't want her as a bridesmaid. My friend ended up not making it to the wedding due to military commitments. I don't think I would have done it in my wedding and I didn't, but I totally get it because a lit of my friends were guys when I grew up.

Yes it's fine!