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Grooms sister a automatic bridesmaid?

Shelbilyn, on February 17, 2020 at 8:59 PM

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Do you think people would automatically think because my fiancé has sisters that they would automatically be my bridesmaids? He has 2 full sisters and 1 step sister, one is like me personality wise but lives across the US, the other is way different than me or the kind of friends and people I hang...
Do you think people would automatically think because my fiancé has sisters that they would automatically be my bridesmaids? He has 2 full sisters and 1 step sister, one is like me personality wise but lives across the US, the other is way different than me or the kind of friends and people I hang with but is the closest sister to my fiancé and the step sister is nice but is younger, shy and quiet. I’m having an issue with feeling like I want to do what I want versus doing the nice thing. If I have one a bridesmaid then the nice thing to do would be to invite the other two to be bridesmaids. I have a feeling my Future MIL and the closest sister think she is in the party. Also, my groom did not invite my younger brother or my sisters bf as part of the party so why do us females feel like we have to have the sisters apart of our party?! What do I do or say? HELP! I don’t like hurting people’s feelings but I like my line up of my sister, cousin and 3 closest best friends.

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  • Samantha
    Dedicated April 2021
    Samantha ·
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    I'm having his sister, but not his SIL. It did create a little awkwardness for a while, but I do not regret my decision.

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  • Betsy
    October 2020
    Betsy ·
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    You could have the younger one as your register attendant. My daughters fiancé has a sister who’s 13 and that’s her role. She even bought her dress from the same place the other girls did (just got a junior bridesmaid dress in the same color). Makes them feel included without you being obligated to have her in the actual Bridal party. Plus there’s a lot of activities that she as a young BM wouldn't be able to participate in.
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  • Kate
    Just Said Yes September 2021
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    I really wanted a small bridal party, so we opted to not include siblings as that would automatically increase the total by five people. However, I invited all the ladies to have hair and makeup done. I also plan to have corsages and boutonnières made to acknowledge family, without having a wedding party of practically 20 people.
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  • K
    April 2020
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    I had my brothers , his brothers and my GF.s Not his 2 sisters. And 35 years later I regret it. We weren’t close at the tine. But all my GF have different lives now but still the sisters are involved.
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  • Bethany
    Just Said Yes August 2020
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    What my fiance and I are doing is having whatever gender we want to stand up with us on our side, so instead of making one of my guy friends his groomsman, he is my bridesman. One of the most significant things I heard when starting our wedding planning is that most traditions for weddings all started in the last 50 years--they weren't traditions before and they don't have to remain traditions. Do a wedding that captures you and your fiance, not typical traditions because everyone expects it. People will be much more accepting of going against the norm when it matches you and your fiance. If your fiance doesn't feel it is important to have his sisters stand up on his side, then they shouldn't be in the party. If you think it's not important to have your brothers stand up on your side, they shouldn't be a part of the party.

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  • Kelly
    Dedicated September 2020
    Kelly ·
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    I think it’s up to you. The fact that he has 3 makes it hard too because it’s not just one extra person. My FH’s sister is in my bridal party but we are pretty close and get along. How many groomsmen does he have? How does he feel about it- does he want his sister involved? If I had a brother I would probably want my FH to put him in the wedding party, but I just have 1 sister. Ultimately it’s your decision though. Hope this helps!
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