Grooms Parents pay for?

FMIL gave us the same lump sum she gave FSIL when she got married, and we were grateful to accept.

She also offered to host the rehearsal dinner, but as we're not having a rehearsal, we declined.

It's the only help we're getting, and we never asked for it or (OY) hinted for it.

I think it's a little crazy to expect a parent to pay. Yes, it would be super helpful if they offered to help. My FMIL was told to pay and organize the rehearsal dinner for her son and his wife and she was so overwhelmed because she just didn't have it financially so she overextended herself and got in a really bad situation - I was the only one there to help her cook, decorate and everything. It was a crazy night! For our wedding - we paid for everything and plan on making sure our moms are taken care of.

I hate when people say "we are paying for everything, and no one is helping" come on, guys. we are all ADULTS. actually, my fiancé said it once or twice and it made me cringe. its a ridiculous thing to say at 30 years old. I asked him to "please, never repeat that sentence, like, ever" and he hasn't since then. No one is "obligated" to pay for anything but YOU AND YOUR SOON TO BE HUSBAND/WIFE.

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Both of our parents have said they want to help. Which is awesome, however until we have cash or check in hand we are budgeting and saving for all of it on our own. We don't expect anything from our parents at all. We just want them there to enjoy the day. If they offer us assistance with any of it, we will gratefully accept.

They only pay if they offer it to you

I'm going to stop being surprised when people ask this question.

No one has to pay for any part of your wedding.

No one should be expected to pay for the wedding except for you and your SO.

If no one offers to pay anything, it's up to you.

My in-laws did not contribute anything to our wedding. Zero dollars.

They generously paid for our RD.