Groom's Parents Morally Opposed to Alcohol!

I think you really need to talk to your FH's parents. There may be a really good reason they are opposed to alcohol (like addiction in the family) and you can't make a decision until you hear them out.

Definately talk to them.

Are they offering to pay for beer and wine, and just have something against hard liquor? If so, is it worth creating family discord to have the liquor instead of just the beer and wine?

If they offered to pay for alcohol and are now refusing to have any at all and saying they are morally opposed, what changed? There is definitely a need for a discussion.

Original Poster here . . . the reason they gave is they had an Uncle who died from alcoholism.

I would say just talk to them if it was my FIL's they would have said this just to say oh, they forgot. But if it was my family, they would have bought it already..... It varies from family to family and person to person, but I would not enter start a marriage off by disregaurding how they feel. Talk to them and tell them your family likes to drink (if they do) and it's not fair to punish all because some don't want it. No one will force booze down their throat.

One of my pet peeves if when someone says they are going to do something then turn around and do the opposite. Has anything changed financially since they offered to pay for the alcohol?

I guess I would sit down with your FIL's and ask them if they still are planning to up hold their original promise to you and FH if not to let you know soon so other arrangements can be made.

This whole situation is weird! Why would they offer if they are morally opposed to it?

That makes no sense. They're opposed to alcohol selectively? It's like saying I'm not opposed to cigarettes except if they're menthol because that's what my X who died of lung cancer smoked.

I wouldn't go into any debates with them. Thank them nicely and get your own booze.

I say just have your parents buy it...my FIL who is a recovering alcoholic was completely against any kind of alcohol at our wedding but I told him that Dh & I wanted to drink that night as do our friends and it was something he did get over and realized that just because he cant drink doesn't mean he should force everyone else not to drink.

Hard liquor is run, vodka etc. and if his Parebt offered to pay for alcohol it's likely beer and wine. Talk to them don't step on toes. They may be uncomfortable and may end up disliking you because you went behind their backs and did it.

That is strange that they arent opposed to all alcohol. It is odd to be selectively opposed

My FH is from a Mennonite family and grew up around a bunch of Mennonite families (they're closer to Baptists than Amish--no horses and buggies or long plain dresses). Anyway, his parents aren't morally opposed to alcohol and have beer and wine occasionally and keep a little bit of liquor on hand, but some of the other families that he knows are only a little okay with beer and wine and don't approve of hard alcohol at all. I don't know why, but apparently it's a common thing to just be opposed to the one kind and not the others.

It's probably because the alcohol percentage in beer and wine is much lower than in liquor?

Anyway, ask your FH if they're okay with paying for beer and wine, otherwise your parents can take care of it. If they're opposed because of the family member who died, perhaps your FH can explain that not everyone who drinks hard liquor does so because of an addiction or wanting to get drunk. Plenty of people just like it or prefer it to beer/wine.

Seriously!? your wedding is next month and this is what you deal with?

I would get my own booze and call it a day. This is weird to me...

In their defense, I am also not a fan of hard liquor especially at weddings because I want people to remember the day as a happy day as opposed to a day that they got drunk. That being said my family wants liquor while I want a dry wedding lol. Anywho back on track here. Maybe your fh's parents offered because the tradition is that the groom's parents buy the alcohol. Personally, I would accept whatever they want to help with and if it doesn't fill eveything you need then go pick up whatever liquor you think you need. Just tell them that you plan to do that.

Have your parents buy it if it can be returned if not opened. No one will be the wiser and if FH parents don't show up with booze you will still have it.