Because of geographic distance between my family and my fiancé’s family, my FMIL and FSIL suggested they throw a second shower so as to include more guests from my fiancé’s side of the family.
While I don’t love the attention, I thought this was nice and agreed.
Flash forward several months, and I’m realizing I’m not sure what I agreed to. In my circle of family and friends, the groom attends the shower to open gifts with the bride. I’m being told now that this would be outrageous for my fiancé’s family - it’s a “hen party” and he is not allowed even close to the party. Meanwhile, I don’t know his extended family all too well and already bought flights for both of us to travel there.
I’ve stated nicely a few times that I would love if he could join at least for opening presents. That I would feel more comfortable. The responses I’ve received are continued incredulity and that this would make the women attending “feel uncomfortable.”
I cant help feeling that my wishes don’t matter. Maybe that’s self-centered, but I’d think they would care about my feelings
thanks for the help help and support. Please be kind to me! I’m feeling pretty down about this.
