Groom wants to pre-approve dress

My husband would have NEVER said that, he wouldn't have cared if I walked down the aisle in a bathing suit or a sundress or a full poofy princess gown. He just wanted me to love it and feel beautiful. We didn't do a first look, so he didn't see me for the first time in my dress until I walked down the aisle. I think if my husband said he wanted to "approve" of something I was wearing, we both would start laughing before he even got the full sentence out.

No aha because at the end of the day I'm getting what I WANT

Nope - he just wanted me to get something I loved and felt good in. He has seen it and doesn't know he has (since I initially couldn't afford the hefty price tag).

Are you comfortable with him seeing it? It seems like an odd request to me and I would not be happy about it, but as another poster said, you know him better than we do and it may be a totally normal for him request and maybe sounded different when he asked. If you aren't comfortable with it, could you just show him a similar style?

On the surface this sounds very controlling, but many people here think nothing of placing the same stipulations on their grooms (in hetero unions). So, I think as long as it's equal, with both partners getting/giving input, then it's fine.

My fh never asked me that question. We have discussed what type dress that I’m going wear and he asked if I could get a sweet heart neckline. My response was that I will see and he was ok with that. he would would be happy in any dress I choose.

Nope. My FH just wanted me to get "whatever makes you feel beautiful" and that's what I did!!

Does FH have to "pre-approve" all of your outfits? Or just this one? I'm with most everyone else here in thinking that FHs statement sounds very controlling, and not at all what any of us want to hear from our future spouse. This worries me for your future, if you're actually considering allowing him to essentially choose your dress for you. You're not a child. You're a grown woman with a mind of her own, and you can certainly pick out your own clothes.

If that's not the way it is, and we're all just misunderstanding the situation, great!! But if he was serious, I think a more serious conversation is in order, about him wanting to control you.

Lol, that would have been a h*ll no from me. I can pick out my own clothes, thanks very much

Mine hasn’t and he is very traditional so he doesn’t believe in “a first look” before the reception. His first look will be when I walk through those big Cathedral doors (we are having a traditional Catholic wedding). But I’ve heard of it happening on Say Yes to The Dress

The only thing my fiance cares about when it comes to me on our big day are 2 things:

that I show up (LOL) and that he knew what tiara I end up purchasing.

He knew I wanted a tiara (uh...Disney Wedding), he just wanted to see that before hand as he thinks some look tacky. Other than that he trusts my choices.

I'm actually super bummed out to hear this from a new bride... I feel like that just doesn't sound right. Of course, I don't know the context, nor does anyone on WW, but that just sounds kind of controlling. Coming from someone who previously dated someone who was emotional abusive and manipulative, this reminds me a lot of something my ex would say. (He had opinions on what I wore, my hair/makeup, and many other things...) But maybe that just isn't the case, I really don't know so I hate passing judgment over the internet, but this leaves such a sour taste in my mouth.

What I can tell you is this, my FH's reaction to my dress shopping: He was supportive and showed a lot of excitement for me. He wanted to know if I found my dream dress when I went shopping, I even took my FMIL with me and he loved that! He is nothing but curious, and bugs me all the time to know details about the dress, but absolutely never pressures me to know more than I'm willing to let off. (It's a surprise!) But he has absolutely no preference, and would never tell me what to wear/not to wear.

I would only want the best for you, even though you're a stranger, everyone deserves a happy and loving marriage.

Most people said he sounded controlling, which may be the case, but I'm just going to play the other angle. My boyfriend is very superstitious about seeing me in the dress before the big day, but I personally don't care. Your fiance might just be curious. If you're superstitious about him seeing you in it, just tell him! If it doesn't matter to you that he sees it, I wouldn't look at it as a big deal. If his response is very controlling, then you might want to have a talk with him.