Groom attire horror

Sounds like the Bridal couple chose their battles and the Groom got this one. I hope the guests enjoyed their open bar and dinner (praying that that was the agreement ... Open bar and awesome dinner for casual attire ....).

Maybe that's what he was comfortable wearing.

I get letting the groom get to have a major say in his attire but this is a battle I would pick. When we started wedding planning FH immediately told me that he was not wearing a tux and would not be renting a different suit. He insists that he will wear his black suit that he owns and that his guys will wear the black suits that they own. He also stated that they will not wear bouts. That's fine. If that's what he wants I don't really care. If he told me he was not going to put effort in to dressing nicely for the wedding I would not be okay with that. It's a wedding, not a birthday party.

I think it's tacky for guests to judge what couples want to wear for their wedding. Their dressing up, flying OOT, or whatever has nothing to do with what the groom chose to wear. Perhaps he could afford the best tux available. He simply chose not to wear it. It doesn't really affect anyone so long as it doesn't change their hosting.

Forgot to mention there was a cash bar as well so maybe that's why they were also more judgmental than they probably needed to be, I wasn't there but from the pictures I saw, I would be mortified if my fh wore something like that, now I don't think tuxs or suits are necessary for all but I do think some kind of effort is needed, he could have dressed up a little more than he did without having to buy or rent a suit or tux imo

A girl who I went to school with (she was a few years younger) just got married and her groom wore a DIRTY wife beater in all of the photos.

FH would NEVER get away with this. I would actually refuse to walk down the aisle until he put something resembling a suit on. That being said.

That is not my wedding. Maybe she got her gown really cheap. Maybe they had a last minute disaster with the tux. Maybe they don't care about what they wore as long as they are married. I'm assuming by the cash bar they probably didn't have a lot to spend on things. Maybe a tux was the thing to go.

I wouldn't care, personally. How does it affect my enjoyment of their wedding if the groom is comfortable? Making your guests pay is a different issue, of course.

#mrsmatt18 That's appalling. At least get a new, clean, crisp white wife beater.

Jeans on the golf course was all I got out of that.

@amandaj I meant to say that shirt was what my fh wore golfing today lol he wore shorts of course haha my bad

I'm being really judgmental now that I know a cash bar was involved.

@Keladriel IKR! People have no class now.

The groom's attire might have been slightly confusing to guests, but let's face it -- every eye is on the bride as far as fashion goes. If the guests were properly hosted with cocktails, apps, a hot meal, and an open bar, the groom's attire wouldn't have resonated with them beyond, "Well, I've never seen that before, but whatever." What got them into a judgmental mood was heading towards a bar, after paying for airfare, hotel accommodations, and a gift, and then being told that their drinks would be handed over following a cash transaction. Honestly, they had every right to be judgmental. The first thing a guest -- especially one who has dropped four figures to attend this wedding -- is going to think is, "Oh...I get it. They wanted to keep the guest list (gifts) high, and the budget as low as possible." Yes, couples will be judged for that, and if that's the route a couple is going to take, they've earned their judgment. The grocery store attire is just something they used to fortify their "this wedding was tacky" position. I don't blame them. The groom probably could have dressed as Darth Vader, but if the guests were properly hosted, they would have probably smiled and said, "To each his own...but the wedding was fantastic."

I'm sorry but some of these responses are ridiculous. Yes, it DOES matter what the groom is wearing. Unless it is a very casual wedding where jeans are encouraged for guests to wear, then jeans are never appropriate for a wedding, especially by the groom. Almost no one believes jeans are ok for guests so why does the groom get a pass? The bride is in a formal gown, guests likely spent money on new suits and dresses, and he shows up in jeans and sneakers as though he doesn't care and couldn't be bothered to dress appropriately? It's disrespectful to the bride and to guests.

What's disrespectful to the guests is having a cash bar. That's downright rude. I don't see how what the groom chooses to wear is disrespectful. When I go to a wedding, I don't give a damn what the groom wears. He could wear shorts a t-shirt for all I care. I'm going to dress appropriately and assume I'm going to be hosted appropriately. As long as the hosting is on-point (which, in this case, it wasn't), then no, I don't consider the groom's attire to be disrespectful to me.

Emily, of course you make a valid point. Most grooms will dress in concert with their brides. They will dress in a tux or a suit on their wedding day while their brides are dressed in white/ivory/blush/gold formal wear.

However, there are men who refuse to accommodate convention -- or their spouses. Still, the woman has fallen in love with him, and she is determined to wear a formal gown while he wears casual whatever. Would I approve of it? Never. But I wouldn't marry such a man. The bride did. I think he's a narcissist -- a member of the "notice my defiance" club.

Marry a narcissist and you're marrying a man who will embarrass you. The bride doesn't realize that yet, but she will, and she'll either learn to endure or realize that she's tired of it. As far as this wedding goes, people did notice his "in your face" message. However, if they had hosted a proper wedding with a great party, they probably would have said, "the groom was a jerk, but the party was amazing", and that would have been that.

My cousins wedding was in a church and some guy came dressed in a short sleeved button down shirt with fish on it and blue jeans with flip flops. For the reception he showed up in a nice button down shirt and dress pants with dress shoes. I thought that was weird. The reception was at a country club but you'd think he'd wear the nicer stuff for both.

It's not something I would do, but it wasn't my wedding, either.

Oh I would not be getting married if my FH dresses like that but to each his own. There is no way I will be dressed amazing beautiful and he shows up that way. No way at alll. If I was a guest at this wedding, I would talk about it like NO other! (Kinda like how you posted about it for us to know.)