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Beginner December 2016

Groom attending bridal shower??

Abby, on October 29, 2016 at 1:45 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 25

Ok ladies I need your help on this one! Does the groom attend a bridal shower? It's a big debate right now lol. My bridal shower is tomorrow and I want my fiancé to be there for the whole shower. He doesn't think he should be there. The last 3 out of 4 showers I went to the guy was there the whole time. I am getting very mixed reviews from people from him not having to go to just being there for when gifts are opened to him having to be there the whole time. Help!

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Latest activity by rica, on March 31, 2018 at 11:18 AM
  • Chip
    Master March 2018
    Chip ·
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    Last shower I went to, the groom was only there for gifts

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  • Mrs.KatieK
    Master September 2016
    Mrs.KatieK ·
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    I have never personally been to a shower where the groom was present the whole time. I've been to a few where the groom shows up at the end to help load up the gifts, and I've been to a few where the groom shows up during the gift opening.

    I guess I would say its up to you and FH to decide. Maybe he doesn't feel comfortable being around such a "girly" party?

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  • M
    Just Said Yes January 2017
    Marissa ·
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    You can have a couple shower which is what me & my fiancée are doing

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  • R
    Expert November 2016
    Rebecca ·
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    My FH brought me. Stayed about 20 mins to say hello to people and then came back about 15 min before the end.

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  • Baranpartyof2
    Super November 2016
    Baranpartyof2 ·
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    It doesn't matter. Traditionally, "bridal" showers are for women only and a "wedding" shower is for both men and women. My fiance arrived towards the end of my bridal shower to thank everyone and help load the car with gifts. My FH wasn't there for the opening of gifts.

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  • Nancy
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    Nancy ·
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    The last shower I went to the groom showed up at the end. He helped clean up & bring the gifts to the car.

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  • Crescent1874
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    Crescent1874 ·
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    I've never been to a shower with the groom there. They've always been ladies only functions in my circle. That being said though, my Papa and my FIL came to mine. DH ran in, said hello, got a plate of food, and he, my brother, and my cousin made themselves scarce.

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  • Jaimee
    Master October 2019
    Jaimee ·
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    If he doesn't want to go, he doesn't have to go. As much as you may want him there, he doesn't have to be there if he doesn't want to; no matter the duration of time.

    You can tell him you'd really like for him to be there, but that's his decision to make.

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  • tinyred15
    Expert March 2017
    tinyred15 ·
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    I've never been to a bridal shower where the fiancé attended. It's usually just women.

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  • FutureMrsSchiffer
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    FutureMrsSchiffer ·
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    All of the bridal showers I've been to the groom either showed up at the end to help with loading the gifts in the car, or showed up towards the end of gift opening. I've never seen the groom there the whole time, unless it was a couples shower.

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  • brieliz
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    brieliz ·
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    My groom is staying the whole time.

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  • cokesmcgokes
    Expert November 2017
    cokesmcgokes ·
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    All showers i've been to the groom was present the whole time. it would be strange in my circle to have a recipient of gifts not present. and like, to people who are all, "if doesn't want to go don't make him": why does the bride have to go? why is that the assumed responsibility? if they register for gifts as a couple, both people should be there imo.

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  • Melissa
    Master March 2018
    Melissa ·
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    I've been to both. I honestly don't think it matters.

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  • Lana
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    Lana ·
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    I've never been to a bridal shower where the groom was there. But the ones I've been to are always super giry, lol. I don't think it matters either way though.

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    Maddelynne ·
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    Honestly it is your wedding so you decide how things go. If you want the groom there then you should have him there! (:

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  • Nikol
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    Nikol ·
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    I've only been to showers for the women. I've never seen a groom at one, but the ones I've been to have been super girly and are pretty much the bridal party and family. You can do whatever you want!

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  • Mariah
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    Mariah ·
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    I've seen it happen both ways, and it works out fine either way. However, the groom may feel uncomfortable since it's typically just women in attendance.

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  • Christinanyc
    Master December 2016
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    I've been to a bridal shower where the groom was there. It didn't bother me at all.

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  • Future Mrs. L
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    Future Mrs. L ·
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    All of the showers I have been to (with one exception) the groom only came at the end either for gifts or just to thank everyone as they left. The exception was my FBIL but my FSIL told him to come and he wanted to make her happy. He seemed a little out of place though.

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  • Erin Wood
    Master July 2017
    Erin Wood ·
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    Unless it's a co-ed shower I would say no. If it a bunch of men and woman then he won't be the only guy. I personally prefer co-ed because most of my friends are guys.

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