Grieving and moving on

Awe girl! I hope you can find peace and acceptance. That’s been the challenge with everything wedding and non-wedding related lately is finding the beauty in what is and accepting this is the way things are right now and we are making lemonade. I’ve been to renewals and celebrations post elopement and they were every bit as exciting as a wedding and can be very special! We’re planning one for next year to renew our vows and celebrate with friends and family. Perhaps you could plan an event down the road ❤️💕

View Quoted Comment That makes me feel better. FMIL has continued to tell us that people won't come to a future wedding celebration/vow renewal and won't be excited for us, which has made FH and I question if we even want to do it. My family has been super supportive, though, which helps as we decide. I do love a good party, I don't want to put so much pressure on myself to make it perfect anymore.

We were originally 10/10/20 and in June we postponed to 10/30/21. It only hit me on the initial day we made the decision. But after that, I was fine because I couldn’t deny that it was the best decision for our Vegas destination wedding. Plus the pandemic was totally out of my hands, so it was hard to be upset
And the way I see it.... it’s worth the wait (and so are we)!!! 😆 But I do pray that life is better managed by next fall. Either way, there won’t be a 2nd postponement and the show will have to go on!

Similar to what you said, I didn’t want to do two totally separate events, where the reception was months apart from the ceremony. That was too disjointed and just didn’t excite me. I preferred having all of the initial emotions to occur all in one day. Plus, if I did the ceremony only, I know that I wouldn’t bother having a reception after being a newlywed for months. So instead, it was a full year postponement for us!
Best wishes!!!

View Quoted Comment That is so far from the truth. I have witnessed it first hand! I hope for your’s and FH’s sake that you do what’s best for you so your hearts can heal from this 💕

View Quoted Comment Sending virtual hugs and love your way!!!💕💕💕

View Quoted Comment I think you have a great attitude about it. I'm honestly hoping the weddings this year will help people reprioritize what a wedding is to them - I'm going to be really excited to see the people we love (although it's sad we can't have nearly as many of them) and it'll force me to take note of the smaller special moments.


It won't be what I imagined, but I've tried to reinforce to myself that *I'm* in control of whether I have regrets or not. We've got about two weeks to go at this point, and this will be my only wedding so I might as well try to enjoy it.
Take your time to grieve what you lost. Then gather yourself up with your FH and make the best decision you can - and then *accept* it wholeheartedly. That last part is the trick. ✌️

View Quoted Comment It's so exciting that you're in the home stretch! I think you're right that this will probably help us reprioritize wedding expectations. My older family members all had small, low key, affordable affairs, and in one generation, expectations have totally spiraled out of control. Time to get back to basics.


Both of us will have to work on accepting. We talked last night about basically letting all of our old wedding plans "die" so we can be happy with new plans. Hope we can get there

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Yeah previously I thought my worst fears would be that a bunch of cousins I don't really know would show up or that there would be some drunk driving issues.
Now I really just want everyone who attends to end up staying healthy, and I literally couldn't care less if my dress catches on fire. I told our wedding planner that if I give her the signal she should just meet me on the porch with a bottle of beer and I will chill out there. 😂✌️

I wish I had more advice, but I'm just here to say, I hear you. I'm struggling too. We're in the exact same dilemma. We have a plan A, B, C, D, and E and we're running through them like wildfire. I don't know what our wedding day will look like and it's breaking my heart.

View Quoted Comment This is what my experience has been like. We have gone through 4 plans. Just finding a location that doesn't violate travel restrictions for both sets of parents is a struggle. We need to be a bit more creative, but our desire to make it as close to plan A as possible is holding us back

This is exactly why we postponed for a year. We want the wedding we planned and it's worth it to us to wait.

View Quoted Comment Thank you!! Right back at you!! 🤗❤️