Greeter

I’ve been part of the house party 3 times which traditionally does things like this. It’s common in the south and is like a bridesmaid but doesn’t stand up with the bride and usually greets/hands out programs.

My little brother is going to be an usher and he's thrilled. He gets to chat with everyone and be a part in it all. He's 7 years younger than me and 14 years younger than FH so he wouldn't be comfortable in either side of the wedding party. He actually volunteered for this roll. With his outgoing personality and his eagerness to help with everything, this is a great way to have him be an important part of it all.

I’d rather be asked to be a reader than a greeter. I think the groomsmen should do that.

I think it's a great job for someone that is too old to be a flower/ring person, but too young to be a bridesmaid/groomsman. I was a greeter/guest book manager/program hander outer when I was 12 for my father's 2nd wedding and I felt super honored. I took it so seriously lol.

I would only ask someone in the wedding party or the parents to do that

We are having my teenage brother and my FH’s teenage brother and sister be the ushers. It’s a way to include them in the wedding without making them bridesmaids and groomsmen because they are too young.

My FSIL asked my FH to be the usher/greeter at her wedding and he was really upset and annoyed about it

That sounds like something for the groomsmen to do.

I'd honestly be annoyed. I would feel like I'm put to work and wouldn't have the oppourtunity to enjoy myself.

I might feel honoured when you initially asked but it would be quickly replaced by boredom, uncomfortableness and a little bit of resentment that I couldn't just enjoy myself like everyone else

I have 5 boy cousins who are 17 and under so I asked all of them to be my ushers for my wedding. I wanted to incorporate them in somehow as I was apart of their parents weddings.

My cousin originally asked me to be a reader and then a month before changed her mind and said I was a greeter/usher. I thought the last minute change was a bit odd at the time and just didn't see why she wanted to include me (there was already a male usher). I think she felt like she had to include me because my sister, who she was much closer to, was a bridesmaid. It didn't feel like much of an honor but I appreciated her gesture. It was a bit uncomfortable and everyone knows they have to go sit down. IMO, I don't think greeters or ushers are meaningful or necessary. I really wouldn't want to be one again, I'd rather be a guest. We aren't having any because of this.

Geez, people have intense negative opinions about this! If I had a loved one getting married and they asked me to greet the guests, I’d be honored. It’s not like being knighted but it’s representing the couple to a certain extent. You’re the first face people see. Do what works for you. My stepsister and niece are handing out programs and they’re excited to be included.