Greeter

I wouldn’t want to do it. I’d rather relax and be a guest

That sounds more like a job. I wouldn’t want to do that.

We are thinking of asking two people and their names would be in the program. My brother said he's been an usher and he felt special to be asked (he's in the bridal party for ours). I only want to ask if it would be considered a nice thing.

I think that’s a job of groomsmen personally.

This isn’t something I’d be honored by.

I would decline. Guest or true wedding party member. I also don’t want to do a reading.

I don't want to be an usher-it's a stupid job. Adults can find their way to a seat. Programs can be arranged on a table at the entrance.

The only reason we are having ushers is because the church has a balcony and some funky seating. Our family members are ushers at the church every Sunday, so we asked them to help out. Otherwise it’s not necessary and not an honor.

I agree with previous posters—I think it’s a job, not an honor. I also am anti-usher—I find it super awkward as a guest.

I want to caveat my last post though—if someone is being really insistent in asking how they can help that day, that’s a good place to put them! 😀 I know I didn’t mind coordinating my cousin’s photography list. (She allowed each little family unit to get portraits with her photographer and it was a lot to coordinate). It was a job but I didn’t mind—so it depends on the person! I liked having a job in that instance.

I am one of the few who like the idea of ushers. We are having ushers, and we might have a reading. Now as far as greeters go, I think that is an actual job. And that i would decline that if someone asked me to do it. In my opinion that is the a job for venue staff

I've only been to one wedding that had users. But the users were the groomsmen.

My brother-in-law wanted to have a part in the wedding, so I put him as a greeter/usher. If someone wants to be involved and make themselves useful, I think that is a great go-to role.

How is an usher more of an honor/less work than a greeter?

I had a friend get married and all me to do this. I was kind of insulted that I wasn't a good enough friend to be a bridesmaid she it was like she wanted to give me something to do. I didn't want to do it but couldn't tell her. Ultimately, I didn't end up making it to the wedding as it was out of town and she went nuts with her destination bachelorette and I had no money left.

We're having our moms and dads serve as ushers since our wedding is nontraditional and there will not be a procession. They love the idea since they get to be nosy and meet all the people in our lives lol.

I was asked to do this once and I felt honored.

I would be honored!

I wouldn't feel honored, and I would never ask anyone to do this. At my wedding the banquet manager greeted all my family and other guests, and have them glasses of champagne. I see it as unnecessary. I would hate to be asked to do this.

My brother was just in a wedding where all of the groomsmen were also asked to be ushers/greeters prior to the ceremony. I think it’s something simple enough that the groomsmen can do