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Devoted October 2013

Graduation Party with a Twist?

Christine, on April 5, 2014 at 4:35 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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Long story short many of our guests did not come to our wedding because of tornadoes destroying the area. Many of our guests felt horrible for not coming, but kept on telling them I am glad that they are safe. We even postponed our honeymoon to help clean-up. I will be graduating from college next year and we will be holding the reception at my husbands church. I was already planning on decorating the whole church so people could take a tour and then hold a dinner reception in the basement (it's a very nice church). I recently joined his church as well, but we were married in my parents church. My husband thought of asking guests to be there a certain time, and then we would usher them into the pews. He thinks we should stand up at the alter, renew our vows, and then celebrate my graduation downstairs. All the people who we are inviting for the graduation were invited for the wedding. We would not even state on the invite there will be a vow renewal. Cont.

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Latest activity by Rachel DellaPorte, on April 6, 2014 at 8:55 AM

Devoted October 2013
Christine · on April 5, 2014 at 4:41 PM
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It is important for him to celebrate this milestone. I'm going to be honest, it has been extremely difficult with me going to school full-time, working full-time, and him being a full time fire fighter and plumber. There has been a death in our family about a month after we were married, and there have been many horrible, horrible, and I mean horrible issues from that. He has a very deep faith and it is important for him to do something like this in his church. Plus, we broke the tradition on his family side by not getting married at his church. Again, we would not have a "second wedding", we would just stand up there with our families, renew or vows, and then celebrate my graduation afterwards. Is this bad taste? I'm not asking for anything from our guests and I'm not going to go all out like we did for the wedding. We were also thinking of a time as well. We are between the afternoon and evening. Thank you ladies!
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Nel · on April 5, 2014 at 4:49 PM
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I think it's a great idea. I do not see anything bad taste in it - after all it is a graduation party in which you just happen to renew your vows, you're not redoing your wedding. If I were a guest who missed a wedding due to a natural disaster then I'd love to come to something like this to make up for it.
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Dedicated May 2014
Tywanda · on April 5, 2014 at 5:34 PM
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Great idea
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ELENA · on April 6, 2014 at 4:41 AM
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Love the idea!!!
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Master April 2014
Nonna T · on April 6, 2014 at 5:30 AM
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Very nice idea!
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Rachel DellaPorte · on April 6, 2014 at 8:55 AM
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Tornadoes destroying the area? A postponed honeymoon to help with clean-up? A death in the family with horrible, horrible repercussions? I think you are entitled to do a lovely vow renewal, and I can't imagine why anyone would have a problem with it. I know you don't want to turn your graduation party into a wedding reception, but I might add a line to your invitations mentioning that a vow renewal will take place right before the dinner. Of course, that's completely up to you.
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