Got engaged too early?

Engagement parties should be thrown by other people in your honor. If you have a date you like it isn’t too soon to look. Vendors and venues book 1-2 years in advance

My mother-in-law wants to throw an engagement party but my family says it's too early because the wedding is two years away.

There's nothing wrong with a long engagement. When it comes to wedding planning, I feel like there's no such thing as 'too much time'. When we get married we will have been engaged for 14 months, and that feels like no time at all in wedding planning time.

I would have the party just to celebrate. Its never too early to plan! Weddings are expensive and things book 1 - 2 years in advance!

View Quoted Comment It isn’t too early. An engagement party should be held near the time of your engagement. If it was a year from now it would be odd.

I wouldn't say you got engaged too early. He chose the right moment he felt to propose to you which shouldn't have correlated to how long of a time your wedding is from that point. Yes people plan weddings in short time but each situation is different. You have a lot of time to SAVE money, to enjoy your engagement and to use Pinterest to your advantage. You can learn a lot from reading through these forums on others' experiences to avoid mistakes you could make early on. An engagement party can be thrown with some friends at a nice restaurant if you'd like now (most people recommend 1-2 months after being engaged. It's honestly how you feel because you might probably have a bridal shower later so it's fine to celebrate now.

Edit: Your VENUE is the most important thing and figuring out your budget. Think of the 2 years to your wedding as an advantage to get started scoping out your venue. That should be the main priority.

You can go to bridal shows and get ideas, start saving or start planning a honeymoon. Start figuring out your prelim things like how big or small, start budget planning. Venue visits.

I had a 3 year 3 month engagement by the time we will say i do nothing wrong with that!

It’s not to early to plan at all, me and my FW are getting married in 2020 also. We’re touring our venues this month and plan on getting our engagement photos done this summer. Although I’d love to be married sooner rather than later we’re both grateful to have plenty of time to save up, and plan

Guess I'm the UO- I don't understand long engagements. But to me, a wedding is just a party. The idea of spending years to save up for a party is anathema to me.

I asked my fiance to marry me because I wanted to get married. I don't want to wait years to do it just to have a pretty princess party.

But you need to do what works for you. If the party is important and you need more money or whatever your reasons are, it's a personal thing and you'll have to figure what is best for yourself.

We are having a 2 yr, 3 month engagement and I have to say there are some slow moments but we also have time to save, plan our wedding, and plan out life after the wedding. We got engaged in March 2017, had our engagement party August 2017, booked our venue in October, booked our photographer in december, booked our officiant in January, and now things are going to be slow for a while. When we reach one year to the wedding in June, things are really going to pick up again. My advice is that it is NOT too early to book venue and person specific vendors. Where I live 2 year engagement are very common so many of those things are booking that early. Take your time with everything else and enjoy the ride!

I don't think there's anything wrong with long engagements, but don't think that 2 years is even that long (ours will be 23 months). I look at engagements as an important big step in a relationship, and each couple has to decide when they're ready to take the next step to marriage.

We started looking for a venue about 16-18 months out, and booked it soon after (the dates in our month were already almost all full), but most stuff waited until about a year out to book.

I will have a 19 month engagement when its all said and done. I knew we could not swing a wedding in 2017 as we still lived separately in a high cost of living area so we had to move in together first in order to save. We wanted a spring wedding and our first choice venue was available for May 2018 so...19 months it was lol. People have longer engagements for a number of reasons. We got first dibs on a lot of vendors but the videographer (he was already booked and we reached out 15 months early lol.) Start researching after coming up with your budget and guest list and move from there. It really does fly by. I am less than 4 months out now and I made sure to enjoy my engagement.

It’s definitely not too early! We magically snagged our dream venue for this year, but not two weeks later, they had no more 2018 wedding dates left. Take your time in planning and saving money! I’m happy with my shorter engagement, but I am also sooo stressed with wedding planning, grad school and my full time job. There’s pros and cons to both. Happy wedding planning!

Our engagement was 18 months and the time flew. It is never too early to start planning. Create a budget and a rough draft of your guest list and then go from there.

Nooo! it gives you time to save on money!

Don't worry about the length of other people's engagements, just do what's right for you. My engagement will be 16 months total, and we still have acquaintances that got engaged well after us and will be getting married before us. It's a little frustrating because I'm anxious to be married already, but each couple has their own timeline that works best for them!

An engagement party is usually thrown to celebrate the engagement, regardless of when the wedding is. You're not engaged "too early" either. Plenty of people go 2+ years out because it works best with their budget. I have a year and a half engagement because we are paying ourselves. I don't regret it one bit!

It's been a fairly relaxed planning experience and I've had time to work on details. I only had about an hour or two on work nights to do anything DIY, which is not a lot of time. I was almost always busy on weekends. So I had plenty of time to slowly work on my bouquets and invitations, both of which where going to be a long process regardless!

Take it from me, use the two years to your advantage!

I'd say start looking at vendors now to get an idea of what you want. Best part of starting early and having a long engagement is that you have a much higher chance of snagging the vendors you want! We had to go with 2nd and 3rd choice vendors for a lot even though we booked almost a year in advance.

My engagement will be almost 2 years. Fiance said 2020 originally but I really want a fall wedding and didn't want to wait too long so we compromised on Oct 2019. 3 months shy of 2 years. We already have a preliminary guest list and are going to look at 2 venues today. I see it as more time to save and really research vendors and wedding ideas. You don't have to stress over needing to get things done in a rush.