Got a self-centered BM..

I totally know how that goes. some people really just can't handle it when the focus isn't on them. I had a BM that was the same way during the planning. When it turned out she wasn't going to be able to make the dress shopping day she told me it didn't matter what the girls picked because, and i quote "I'll look hot in anything." cause you know, that was my concern.

i do have to say though that when the day actually came, she really did come through for me and was awesome. when she's really testing your patience try to remember why you picked her to be there with you in the first place.

Oh yikes! I would definitely say something to her! Chill out maybe? People don't like being told that they are acting crazy... maybe she needs to be told that!

Hey at least your BM shows up. My MOH has been MIA for the majority of my wedding planning and events with no appologies or texts. I doubt she will even come to my bachelorette (after she failed to plan it and it had to be taken over by other people)

Oh wow @PurpleSun. That's pretty messed up. Have you tried calling her up for lunch or something and discussing this.

This BM has yet to respond to any messages apparently about helping out with any of the bridal showers or my bachelorette party and I doubt she will since what's important to her is how she looks for the events.

@ Julie A...I'm going to try my best to remember why I picked her..right now she seems to focused on her looks.

@Future - Yep! and of course she was a no-show. At this moment, I doubt she will even show for the wedding.

I hope everything works out with your BM though. Either that or cut her off with a quickness lol

Oh wow..a no show.. that's no good...at all! Pretty messed up.

Yeah, we'll see. This same girl asked me the following question maybe a week after we got engaged "How do you want me to wear my hair?" Huh? And this was before I'd even picked bridesmaids. So, basically she said she didn't mean as a bridesmaid, but as a guest...girl what?? Do you think I'd care how you wore your hair as a guest? Smh!

How selfish Future Mrs. You should know that her being a bridesmaid makes it her time and she's the center of attention. Your being a bride is just the needed factor for her day to arrive...lol.

I may be in the minority here..but while yes her behavior is annoying, she is going through a tough time (divorce, low funds)..She probably brought up the divorce/issues since she needs some support from her friends, albeit ill timed..Do you know how much she spent on the outfits? maybe she just got paid or something and wanted to represent you as the bride by looking good at those events..the eyebrow thing, maybe she didn't have enough money. Maybe she has other places she needs to wear the outfits too. How much is the BM dress?

Lol @ Tom!

I understand she definitely needs support through the tough times and I've definitely tried my best to sit with her and talk with her as she was going through it and is still going through her struggles with him. I think what made it awkward is that she doesn't really know the other girls.

At the time she bought the outfits, she wasn't working, but I do know she lives with her mother so she may have helped or maybe she had extra money. The BM dress came up as $119 which I know is a bit up there in price.

Don't get me wrong, I appreciate her for her efforts, but all I've said from the beginning is that I'm not picky about that stuff.

Some people do struggle with not being the center of attention. as much as i love my cousin, this is why she was not asked to be a part of the bridal party.

i knew her ego was an issue when she took over my sons 5th birthday party. like really? can my son shine for at least these two hours?

That was the number one reason why I decided against inviting some girls for my bridal party. Yes we are close friends but when you avoid even talking about my wedding at all costs that is a bad omen.

The only issue is that one of my BM is my FH sister who was almost engaged a year and a half ago and things ended pretty badly. She is trying to be supportive but I think the whole idea of weddings is just turning her off.

Maybe you could offer to have a you and her day, let her have a day where it is all about her. She can't talk about her issues and get everything out in the open. Then maybe you can ask that she does the same for you on your day? All she wants is attention so maybe if you give her some she will back off. Then again...you could be added fuel to the fire so proceed with caution.

I do see. well 119 is not unreasonable for a BM dress..has she mentioned when she will be ordering it? Your date is coming up pretty close..that must be stressful.

She actually ordered it a month ago and it already came in so we're all good, but it was definitely stressful at the time!

I have a girlfriend that is exactly the same way, the entire world evolves around her & her needs. When she calls me, it's about her day, her boyfriend, her job, her etc. She never ask about my wedding plans and I don't bring it up either. I learned during my wedding planning journey, "don't ask, don't tell". I discuss my wedding planning with my FH, my FSIls & of course here on WW. It's been difficult not having anyone to go bridal shopping with and to bounce ideas too. Oh well, such is life. Its raining again, I'm getting sick of these flash thunder storms in NJ

It is sad that some can't just let a girl shine alone sometimes!!!!