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Google docs Bridesmaids duties sign up

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Anna, on February 22, 2019 at 11:50 AM

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As it turns out, I am going to have 8 bridesmaids in my bridal party. I am thinking about creating a Google Doc and listing a bunch of bridesmaids duties/ requests and have my girls sign up for something to help with. They can sign up for as many or as little responsibilities as they want. I want to do this because 1) I know I will need help and support 2) there’s a lot of them so the more helpers the better 3) I don’t want to put all the pressure on my MOH and mom when it comes to planning & 4) dividing up the tasks so 10 people don’t show up to everything with me. Any thoughts on this? Is it asking too much or being too bridezilla-y?

Some duties I will list include:
Looking for a dress with me
addressing save the dates
addressing invitations
decorating for my bridal shower
helping make the seating chart
picking out flowers

any others you can suggest that I can’t think of right now?

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Laura · on February 22, 2019 at 2:33 PM
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Wow! she was asking for advice for whether or not her thoughts were bridezilla ish or if she should go about it another way. Its everyones first time planning a wedding for themselves and she was super receptive to the feedback she received prior to you commenting. No need to be so aggressive.
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Anna · on February 22, 2019 at 2:34 PM
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No one is being asked to pick up anyone’s slack. Some people aren’t into planning big parties (like my FH for example) and there’s some of us who obsess over little details but aren’t artistic enough to make decisions on own or execute a certain vision (like myself). What’s wrong with asking for help if I value the options of my closest friends?
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Anna · on February 22, 2019 at 2:38 PM
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Thank you for understanding! You get me lol
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Melissa · on February 22, 2019 at 4:45 PM
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Honestly I don’t think they need to be doing anything other than getting their dress. The rest of the things like addresses and seating charts and things like that are things to be done with your FH.
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Deirdre · on February 22, 2019 at 5:27 PM
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If your friends offer to help, you can take them up on it, but I wouldn't approach them to assign them things. Even if your FH has never thrown a party, he should be able to handle it if you give him a stack of envelopes and a list of addresses.
If you want help picking out dresses you can ask if people would be interested in going with you and see what they say (I'm sure some will say yes). I just wouldn't approach any of them and tell them what they are going to help with. If they give you a general, if you need help with anything, let me know, then you can assign them specific tasks. I think it would be okay to say would any of you be able to help me out with some wedding things, and see who volunteers, but just make sure your approach isn't hi friends I'm going to need you to address envelopes at my house next weekend. Technically all wedding prep stuff is the responsibility of you and your FH. If you are not getting any help from him, I think you should talk to him about how this wedding is for the two of you and you need some help and support through the process. You can assign him tasks because it's his wedding. Good luck!
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