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Really the only thing you should expect from your maids is throwing the shower (in which the moh delegates duties) and getting their dress/shoes. Picking a dress/picking flowers should be your decision, as its very personal...if you want them to tag along and assist thats fine, but i dont think a signup sheet is necessary. You should pick who to invite.

Typically the bridesmaids pick out their dress and show up to your wedding. That's the only duty they have to do. You should be the one who addresses envelopes, picks out your flowers, chooses your seating chart. If someone volunteers to throw you a bridal party that's one thing, but I wouldn't ever make someone do it for me.

Too much. I'm in the process of asking my bridesmaids right now and literally the only thing I want them to do is stand next to me at my wedding. I would never send them duties to sign up for.

Honestly my FH tends to be the same way but after giving him a narrowed down list, pros and cons for each, and sometimes meeting them in person, I was able to know more clearly what I wanted especially being able to bounce ideas off of him. What really surprised me is that FH actually gave opinions as well. For instance, we started our photographer search and it went like this.

FH didn't care I could just choose.

I told him prices and he freaked out basically insisting we don't need a photographer.

We met with who is now our photographer and he thought she was amazing.

We met with a couple more photographers and he thought their work was terrible and insisted we needed to go with the first lady. Of course I came to the same conclusion so there we have a photographer.

Give FH a chance and don't underestimate what you are capable of planning on your own. Do not put this responsibility on your girls.

Agree with PP this is way extra. I would be totally put off with a list of responsibilities.

My H wasn't super involved I did most stuff on my own and just showed him.... I did the invites, STDs etc. I know this about my H who I love dearly and wouldn't have even thought about requesting a BM to help. If they offer cool if not.. I wouldn't ask them to sign up.

You'll have BM or MOH that will probably ask about dress shopping and want to go .... and if they offer a shower that's awesome but I wouldn't do a sign up sheet.

This seems a little bridezilla to me, but I'm not asking my bridesmaids to do anything so that may be just be. I've been a bridesmaid twice, neither time was I asked to do anything besides by the dress, help with the shower & bachelorette, and show up to the wedding. Traditionally, you'll have nothing to do with your bridal shower so who hosts or who decorates isn't up to you. I'd just make dress appointments and invite everyone, who wants to come will go. Addressing should be more on you and your fiance, as well as the seating chart. Then when you meet with your florist, I'd just invite the girls again and see if anyone even wants to go.

Only give them things to do if they offer. I've been a bridesmaid 4 times and never been given a list of things to do. This is just not normal. I was MOH for my cousin and she asked me to be in charge of the bridesmaid dresses and shoes. That's it! I had another friend ask for help in organizing everyone getting dresses but that's because I offered to help her since she's in med school and has no time. Her FH helped with everything else. Get him involved in more things! Also someone else should be in charge of doing all the stuff for your shower and bachelorette. I'm not having a shower but from what I know about them someone else sets that all up for you and does all the decorating, invites, etc.

For trying on dresses I told my girls when I'd be trying them on and if they could make it I'd love to have them there! The essential person to have there to me was my mom.

You can certainly recruit your bridesmaids to help you with addressing but I wouldn't go the route of a sign up sheet. I would just contact a few and say hey I think I'll need some help addressing invites if you'd want to help me that'd be awesome! It's not a requirement though. I would moreso tackle things like flowers and seating chart with a sibling or mom and FH reviews it/figures out his side of the family. Like I helped my bestfriend spray paint and pick out the burlap, lace, and button combos that would go on each vase for centerpieces. We only ended up spray painting them that one time and we said if she needed help again let us know, but she ended up gluing all the lace and stuff on on her own time. I agree the bridesmaids can come with you to look for a dress but 8 is too many. Most shops aren't like what you see on tv, and they suggest less opinions is more to not confuse you/sway you.

Wow! The two people who are responsible for planning your wedding are you and your FI. Somehow, you think it is okay for you to excuse him, then think that your wedding party has to pick up the slack?

Your wedding party is supposed to be the people you are closest to. Why would you think it okay to alienate all your closest friends at the same time?