Go with the guys?

With my FH, he actually asked me to go with him because even though he thought it would be nice to have a guys outing for it, he's not keen on style or knowing what questions to ask. I think as long as he knows your wedding colors, you should be fine with just letting them have their day.

Even send your FH with the inspiration photo(s) so he can show the stylists to get a better visual of what you're aiming to achieve. Also have him send you photos throughout the process so you can see for yourself. I definitely wouldn't push going if he didn't ask you to go with. Now if something isn't right afterwards, then definitely go back with him and get it corrected.

I went with my fiance and the guys, but that was because he asked me to come. If your fiance specifically wants it to be "guy's time," I wouldn't. I'm assuming he didn't come dress shopping with you, so I think it's only fair to respect his wishes.

Did he pick your dress and your bridesmaid’s dresses? If not, you shouldn’t try to dictate his attire either.

I don't want to go to with my fh. i want it to be something he surprises me with, i know its crazy. Be he says he wants me to pick. Honestly i was going to make that time for me but no lol. I say let him go with his buddies. If it means a lot to him, let him go.

I went with my FH. Originally he was just going to go, but anxiety over me not liking his choices had me tagging along. I still tried to hang back, just put in my opinion when the guy would ask a question and my FH would have a blank look (cufflinks, length of the pant). So long as your FH wants you there, I think it's ok. If he just wants to go, you'll have to trust the tux place won't let him order a powder blue suit with a pink tie lol - I agree with sending him with inspiration pictures and letting him sort it out. He'll look fine - promise.

I went along with my brother, fh and will go with my dad. They wanted me to go for my opinion but I reminded them that this is their suit and ultimately they have to love it. They are too expensive to never wear again. Thankfully, they all have good taste!

My fiance is in a wedding and the groom just sent us a link to two stores and all he had to do was go in and get measured (not pick anything out himself). You could do that so they still get to be men together but you know what they are all getting lol

The place I am ordering my bridesmaids dresses from has fabric swatches available. I’m planning on giving my FH those color swatches to help him with color choices of the suits. I also don’t plan on attending unless he specifically asks me to.

I went with my FH alone to pick colors/style. Then let him do the rest with the guys himself. If he wants to do a thing with the guys you could just let him do it and just plan to make a trip with you and him after before they purchase/order the rentals.

The place that we are renting the tux's from asked us to come in a couple of different times. The dad's haven't really been involved in the planning of anything so next month FH and I and our dad's will go in and get an idea of what they like. Later on down the line FH will be going with his groomsmen to make any final decisions. If your FH wants to make it a guy's day I would let him do it with the guys.

My husband and I went to pick out what him and the guys would wear. Then he met up with the guys to get sized. I was with him because the trip to meet up with them was on our way home from visiting family for the holidays.

I went with my husband because he wanted my help hahaha. Also all but one of his groomsmen live out of town, so he and I and the one groomsman just went together.


If he doesn’t want you to go though, what if he just sends you a photo of the tuxes before he makes a decision?

If he wants to make it a guy thing, don’t go. Do you have a color swatch of the BM dresses you can send?

I will be hands off with my man's attire, but told him if he wants my advice then I will give it.

I think as long as he knows the style and/or colours to work with it should be fine.

I would go alone and let him know his options. Then he could go with the guys and let them know what they could pick from.

I'm going to pick stuff out with my fiance and his sister today. My fiance tried to tell me he wanted navy... our bridesmaid dresses have a lot of black on them. So no way.
FSIL is deciding if she wants a tux or a dress. Then we are picking out everything else. I adore my fiance and value his opinion, but the last wedding he was in, the groomsmen did a hideous pleated shirt. I'm not allowing that crap.

I went with my fiancé to pick out what he and the groomsmen would wear, everything else the guys did together or individually. I had a vision for what I was imagining them in and my fiancé couldn't really care less so it was never really an issue lol

I think if he specifically stated that he wanted it to be guys time I think he was politely asking you not to come. I’m sure you guys have done so already but you guys should discuss both of your visions in detail so he knows what to go into the appointment with. I think you’re best sitting out this one! 😊

My husband and I went together to look at everything and choose the styles we wanted together (I picked colors he picked styles). Then he coordinated with the guys and made sure everything go ordered. Maybe something along those lines could work for you. Or show him what look you’re going for and color scheme, the color(s) of the bridesmaids so he knows what direction to go. They didn’t do a big group outing to get sized or anything. Maybe if he had a big bridal party and everyone was in the same town they may have and I wouldn’t have gone to that.

My FH and I are going to pick styles together before he takes she guys for the official shopping trip.