Rae
Devoted September 2018

Go on honeymoon immediately after or wait a week?

Rae, on September 27, 2017 at 8:42 AM

Posted in Honeymoon 49

So FILs are paying for our honeymoon with hotel points, so we can choose from a couple options. Originally FH and I wanted to go to Italy, but the hotels were a little too expensive for their points. So, we decided on Spain which is just as great! I'm so excited and thankful. But we still have to...

So FILs are paying for our honeymoon with hotel points, so we can choose from a couple options. Originally FH and I wanted to go to Italy, but the hotels were a little too expensive for their points. So, we decided on Spain which is just as great! I'm so excited and thankful. But we still have to chose because of the points, either go right after the honeymoon and get a garden view, or wait a week and get the ocean front view (which would still be separated by a pool). I personally don't care what view I have because it's frikin Spain and still awesome, and personally I'd prefer to go on a Honeymoon right after the wedding. But are there benefits for waiting a week?

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  • StokedToBeASaucier
    Master September 2017
    StokedToBeASaucier ·
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    We waited one week and I am SO happy that we did. We didn't have to pack for our honeymoon, or get all of our documents together before the wedding. We had an entire week to pack and get ready for the honeymoon after the wedding as well as do a lot of errands that I needed to get done - dress preservation, bouquet preservation, etc.

    Probably the best decision we made.

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  • Jamie
    Devoted August 2018
    Jamie ·
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    We are waiting a week. I want to make sure all paperwork and contracts are fulfilled, paid, etc. Then need to board my kitty and drop the pupper off with the grandparents. Also gives you a week to pack, do laundry and not have to rush anything.

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  • brieliz
    VIP January 2017
    brieliz ·
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    I would wait a week if it had to do with work or school or something, but I wouldn't for an ocean vs garden view. I loved that right after the wedding we had this time to ourselves in our little newlywed bubble. The wedding was such a crazy day/weekend that I don't think I would've survived work the following Monday and working all week before we left. If it was something significant I would have been fine waiting a week, but I wouldn't wait over a view.

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  • Miss2Mrs
    Dedicated October 2017
    Miss2Mrs ·
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    So tricky! I would love the ocean view, but would hate to return to work after the wedding!! but like you said, its SPAIN!!! I may have to get FH to pick a straws for the choice!

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  • SoonToBeMrsT
    Dedicated September 2017
    SoonToBeMrsT ·
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    We waited a week and I am glad we did. It gave us a chance to sort things out, hang out with some family the day after the wedding. I was off for 2 weeks after the wedding. DH had 1 day off, then went to work the rest of the week. Then off for the honeymoon. It worked well for us.

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  • svg
    Expert October 2017
    svg ·
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    In your case, I would wait a week! We would have preferred to wait a week or two but we are hopping on a plane like 14 hours later. We are extremely fortunate to have had family we trust offer to hang onto our gifts/cards and my dress and return his tux, so the only real inconvenience will be getting up semi early the next morning and having our bags packed way in advance. I'm thinking it would have been nice to decompress in our own house and environment/routine for a little while afterward. However - waiting a week in between would definitely extend the period of time during which I would be useless and distracted at work. Lol.

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  • MrsJohnsonToBe
    Dedicated October 2017
    MrsJohnsonToBe ·
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    There is something awesome about going right away and leaving everyone behind just enjoying each other. We were going to delay to go to Aruba in 2018, but decided that we really wanted our time together, alone, away from everyone. Then again, it's only a week. If the ocean view doesn't mean much because you won't be in your room, then go right away.

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  • Erin Wood
    Master July 2017
    Erin Wood ·
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    I really did not want to go back to work for the week after my wedding. I only get 2 weeks vacation so taking the extra week off wouldn't have been an option for me. What does your FH think? Is the view that important to him?

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  • Natalie
    VIP June 2017
    Natalie ·
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    Wait the week. We had a month between the wedding and honeymoon. It was nice to still have something to look forward to weeks after the wedding.

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  • Michelle
    Expert February 2018
    Michelle ·
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    I want to go right after we get married but I'm in med school and I don't have spring break until 3 weeks later. I think it'll be something nice to look forward to though.

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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
    earias ·
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    I would recommend waiting a week to allow yourself time to recover and get prepared for an international trip. After my 1st wedding, we were so exhausted for the next few days! And don't underestimate jet lag. You will need to be well-rested, relaxed and re-energized to adjust to the jet lag and really enjoy your time in Spain. If you haven't traveled overseas together (or on a plane for that matter), you will discover it can be very stressful for a relationship because of dealing with being overly-tired, hungry, navigating foreign places, etc. Being in good spirits and rested will help!

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  • jona
    Devoted October 2017
    jona ·
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    We are waiting a week because my work prefers that you limit your time to 2 consecutive weeks, and i needed a little more time for the wedding too. i am relieved to have the week so that i can pack and get ready independently from the wedding. i also took the monday off.

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  • FutureMrsBoo
    Devoted September 2018
    FutureMrsBoo ·
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    We're planning on doing our honeymoon within a few months of our wedding, but are staying flexible on when to get the best prices. Honestly the thought of immediately going on a honeymoon gives me a lot of anxiety. There are loose ends to be tied up after the wedding that will be easier if you're there to deal with them yourself, not to mention any name or account changes you may want to make. I'd also hate to be packing before the wedding. Consider taking a day or two off work post-wedding if you have the time to decompress.

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  • Trish
    Devoted November 2017
    Trish ·
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    We're waiting a few months, but that's because we have to wait for a break from school. 3 personal days isn't going to get us much of a honeymoon

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  • Mrs. Haug
    Devoted June 2018
    Mrs. Haug ·
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    We're waiting until 2 weeks after our wedding to go on our honeymoon. I could see a week in between having its advantages. You have plenty of time to pack and relax after the wedding and can get everything in order

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  • StPaulGal
    Master July 2017
    StPaulGal ·
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    We went the next day and there were definitely pluses and minuses.

    Bad things first. We were tired, but we slept on the plane so that wasn't a huge issue. The biggest downside is that we left a friend in charge of freezing out leftover cake for us but he put it in our fridge instead. Needless to say it was a total loss 2 weeks later. If we had been there to deal with it that wouldn't have happened. It also kind of sucked to have to get moving in the morning and pack for the trip, but the flight wasn't until mid afternoon so it wasn't the worst.

    Personally, I think the good outweighed the bad. Neither of us had any interest in going to work in Monday after the wedding. But we also wouldn't have taken time off, since we wanted to spend every possible moment on the honeymoon. If kept the wedding/newlywed excitement rolling as we went straight from one to the other. The whole time we kept looking at each other and thinking "I can't believe this is real. " I wouldn't change a thing.

    Obviously people have had great results with either choice. You said you want to go right away so I think you should. How much time are you going to spend starting out the window at the view anyway. You'll either be...erm...busy...in the room (lol) or out of the room and enjoying Spain.

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  • Erin Wood
    Master July 2017
    Erin Wood ·
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    In regards to jet lag. Try to get on Spain time the minute you get on that plane. We went to Thailand the Monday after our Saturday wedding and we were fine. Spent Sunday dropping off the tux, packing and just hanging out and then left Monday afternoon for Thailand. We were tired but it worked out great because it was 3am Thailand time. We slept on the plane for about 6 hours and then woke up at 9am Thailand time which was night time in the US. It was hard but so worth it. We had no jet lag.

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  • Meagen
    VIP October 2017
    Meagen ·
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    We are going immediately after the wedding because I just couldn't stand the idea of going straight back to work after all the months of planning and the big day. I need a break!

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  • CindySue
    Expert September 2017
    CindySue ·
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    A week is nothing. I would wait. We chose to wait a few months to avoid the rainy season in Thailand. I'm glad because the high of the wedding lingers on its own and we will get to celebrate again in November!

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  • Marta
    Expert July 2017
    Marta ·
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    I think it's personal preference. I had no desire to go back to work for a long while after the wedding and we wanted to go right away so we did. But I know others who have waited, months even. At the end of the day, it's still you honeymoon

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