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Jan
Just Said Yes January 2022

Glasses on wedding day

Jan, on November 3, 2021 at 3:17 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10
Okay I feel like I’m being petty but was curious what you guys think. My fiancé started wearing glasses a year ago. I think he looks handsome with or without the glasses. However in pictures he doesn’t look like himself with the glasses on.


We took engagement pictures and just got them back and I didn’t think he looked like his handsome self. It kinda made his eyes look weird.. anyways now with the wedding coming up I don’t want the same experience with our wedding pictures. He can still see without them but far away it starts to get blurry. I want him to be comfortable and I feel like I’m being controlling by wanting to tell him what he shouldn’t wear.
Is there a nice way to say it? Or should I just get over it cause it not that big of a deal?
Thanks!

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Latest activity by Susan, on November 5, 2021 at 11:14 AM
  • Scandalousrandallous
    Devoted July 2023
    Scandalousrandallous ·
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    I mean I guess it depends how he feels...

    If he agrees, can he practice contacts?

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  • C
    Super July 2020
    Cool ·
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    Not really a nice way to say that. It sounds like he’ll be wearing glasses for the future so it makes sense he wear them.
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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    In sickness and health, right? If he needs glasses, then him wearing glasses IS how he looks now. I would recognize that you have a bias against glasses, and that's your right, but I wouldn't say anything to him about it unless he asks for your opinion.

    Over the (hopefully) many years of your marriage, you will both go through things that might change your appearance in small and big ways. Learning to look past the surface to the person you fell in love with is a really important skill.

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    If he’s starting to wear glasses now, chances are he’ll be wearing them in 10 years. So think about this looking back at your photos 10 years into the future. Glasses will be his normal, and to see the pictures without may start to feel like “not like him” ….anyway it’s his comfort, so it’s not something I’d say anything about, unless he is specifically asking your opinion.
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  • Rosie
    Master February 2022
    Rosie ·
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    You could do what Jack Brooksbank did for his wedding to Princes Eugene - he put them on to watch her walk down the aisle, and then popped them back in his pocket, haha! it was VERY cute to see him put them on, straining to get a good view of her when she arrived.

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  • Michelle
    Champion December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Agree. Talk to the photographer about angles. If he needs them to see, then there is no polite way to say don’t wear them to the wedding.
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  • Laura
    Dedicated September 2022
    Laura ·
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    I think you're going to have to let him wear the glasses, though you first started your journey with him sans glasses he wears them now. I think you'll get used to the new him. Especially if his vision is impaired even slightly without them. If you feel comfortable asking him and you should since you're marrying him ask him to do pics with and without. I wouldn't say he looks weird though be a bit more tactful than tthat. I will have to wear mine on my wedding day otherwise I'll be blind without them.
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  • Nichole
    Expert September 2022
    Nichole ·
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    As someone who wears glasses daily and is very near sighted I actually HATE walking without my glasses, not only do I not see well but it gives me a sense of vertigo to walk without them after wearing them all the time. However I do completely understand your concern with pictures. Would contacts be an option for him? I am actually getting contacts for my wedding day so I dont have to wear glasses (Ive worn them daily in the past but glasses are cheaper in the long term). You could also discuss having him take his glasses off just for pictires, however at the end of the day he should be comfortable and be able to see. Plus over the years you will realize that you stop seeing the glasses because they are just a part of him for you.
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  • Genna
    Devoted October 2024
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    Maybe contacts or a more stylish pair of glasses,
    Either way you will Fall in love with him all over again on your special day ❣️


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  • Susan
    Devoted October 2021
    Susan ·
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    My husband and I both wear glasses--we're both nearsighted, and probably wouldn't be safe without them. If he needs them, he needs them. The photos will look fine, I promise. Smiley smile There's no nice way to say "You can't wear your glasses and fully experience our wedding day because you'll look weird in the pictures."

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