Giving Me Away

I actually really like your idea!! Sometimes the simplest ones are the most personal and memorable! Maybe include a tie you'd like him to wear?

"Will you be my dad, sooner rather than later?"

"Walk me up the aisle to the man of my dreams and thank you for raising him."

Poem, huh? That will take a bit longer...

You've been so great and I'm so glad

Won't you do the honor of being my dad?

One day soon will be our day

I'm hoping you will give me away.

It's been an honor, it's been a pleasure

Getting to know you, it's like a treasure.

So please say yes, say you will,

Because to me, it will be a thrill.

Eh, kind of hokey but a starting point.

That's so sweet, I bet he'll be touched! Guys aren't much for poems, but they do like little notes or just straight up asking. I'd say make a card that seems like a regular father's day card on the front, but inside asks him to walk you down the aisle. Get cheesy if you want!

I love that! He will definitely appreciate that

Aww that's beautiful I'm sure he would love the poem!

Since fathers day is coming up, why not ask him then? I would just write what you wrote in a card -- don't try to get cutsey with a poem -- just that he has helped you so much and become like a father figure to you over the past 4 years.

Got me all choked up reading this! Haha! First of all, I think it's lovely that you have a beautiful relationship with your FFIL. Second, maybe a simple hand written note? He will probably keep it forever. Maybe tears as well haha. I'm sure he'll be honored no matter how you ask!

I got a fathers day card and want to put a poem of some type in it. The fathers day card says something like what is a dad.

I loooove this idea! @nonna the poem made me tear up!

You don't need a man to walk with you down the aisle. If your great aunt raised you, why not ask her? You've only known fiance's father for 4 years.

P.S. No one "gives you away." That phrase has origins that are both archaic and sexist.

I would be extremely careful with this. Does he have any daughters? I am the only daughter. And my dad and I are extremely close. My mom and brother are extremely close. This may sound selfish, but if my brother's fiance asked my dad to walk her down the aisle I would lose my shit. I am not sorry about it either.

Maybe you should have your great aunt walk you. I just would make sure that (if he does have a daughter) everyone is okay with it first. If so, that might be very cute and the poem is very nice

OP - Red2018 has a point, but not everyone feels that way. If I had a friend or future SIL who didn't have a dad, I wouldn't feel anything but proud that my dad was the one she got to pick to do her the honor. It certainly wouldn't take anything away from me.

I am wondering why you don't ask your great aunt to walk you down the aisle? If she raised you?

I guess I have an UO here but I think it would be super weird to have FH's dad walk you down. Have you known him a really long time?

I have asked my great aunt to walk me down; she does not want to do it. I'm not close to any of my uncles or other family. My step brother is in our wedding. My fiancé is an only child so they only have a son. His father and mother both have said I'm the daughter they never had. My fiancés mother has said that he's mentioned he hopes I will ask him. I just want a very cute sentimental way to do it

Tyugo, you should do what you feel is right.

Joe and I walked up the aisle together.

If that is the case then I would definitely ask him!

I like your idea. My father passed away so I asked my uncle. He was worried my mom wanted to but she actually liked the idea just hadn't thought of it.

@Red - Just a follow up/ My comment wasn't intended to be snarky, I'm not sure if you took it that way, but it bothered me, so I came back to tell you. You are FO SHO allowed your feels about your dad. I was just giving a "flip side" of how a daughter might feel. And OP - I am sure whatever you come up with will be sweet and meaningful, because it is quite obvious that you care A LOT.

Such a sweet idea! I love the idea of just a heartfelt handwritten note. Maybe a hankie with a cute saying on it for the day of? Pp mentioned some play on Fathers Day which would be cute as well (especially if you plan to call him "dad")

Technically, he can't really "give you away" since you are entering into his family, so I wouldn't use that term. But if he is your father figure, then you should definitely ask him to walk you down the aisle in support of your marriage to his son. And I would ask him on Father's Day.