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Gifts for parents (all divorced) not paying

Kayla, on April 25, 2019 at 10:32 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 20

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I'm wondering if anyone has any advice on giving gifts to parents and their significant others. Both my FH's parents and my parents are divorced and they all are remarried or at least dating someone long term. My mom is so far the only one who has contributed anything financially. FH's mom has offered to help make decorations and stuff but she lives 6 hrs away so it's hard to have her do all of that. Anyway, I'm struggling to figure out what to get everyone and if we're supposed to get gifts for all the step parents/significant others also. I also suck balls at buying gifts for people as it is so any suggestions are greatly appreciated!

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Latest activity by Kayla, on July 12, 2019 at 8:19 PM

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Anna · on April 25, 2019 at 10:36 PM
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We’re doing group presents by couple instead of one per person, there are three sets of parents so that would make it way too much money. We are writing a thank you note to each set and will be doing photo books for each set
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Kayla · on April 25, 2019 at 10:45 PM
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I really like the idea of couples gifts! Way cheaper that way too haha! I've seen some other discussions mentioning the album's or letting them pick their favorite picture and having it framed for them. So I think I'm definitely going to do the pictures somehow.
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MOB So Cal · on April 25, 2019 at 11:23 PM
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Daughter and SIL gave us lovely, small token gifts, but they each wrote us the sweetest, most thoughtful thank you notes, and we will treasure those forever.
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Kayla · on April 25, 2019 at 11:27 PM
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Thank you for advice from the parents side! It's good to know that it doesn't have to be super elaborate.
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Jessica · on April 26, 2019 at 12:43 AM
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You don't necessarily have to do gifts. As someone explained above, a heartfelt thank you note is more than enough.
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Kayla · on April 26, 2019 at 12:46 AM
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That's very true. I just feel like I need to give them something, even if it's little you know.
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MOB So Cal · on April 26, 2019 at 8:21 AM
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In addition to the heartfelt cards, daughter and SIL gave each of the moms an embroidered handkerchief (mine was customized with something I've said to daughter throughout her life, but I think MOG's was a more "standard" message) and both dad's got custom cuff links (again, FOBs were super specific to something he & daughter both love and FOGs were a bit more generically related to a hobby of his). I don't know for sure, but I'd guess they spent about $25 or less on each gift. But, like I said, the cards meant the most to us. Good luck!
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Beginner July 2019
Kayla · on April 26, 2019 at 8:23 AM
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Thank you so much!
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MrsD · on April 26, 2019 at 11:04 AM
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My fiance's parents are helping with the wedding financially at all. We got his mom a handkerchief that is personalized, bought her dress, bought her a picture frame, and wrote her a letter. For his dad (he did pay for the rehearsal dinner), we wrote him a letter, got him a picture frame, and bought his tie. For his stepmother, we are probably going to write her a letter and get her something small like a ring dish or something.
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Beginner July 2019
Kayla · on April 27, 2019 at 1:57 PM
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Thank you! It seems to be a common gift of ties, letters and picture frames. I like these ideas so I think I will do those and try to do something personal and small for each person
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Clíodhna · on June 21, 2019 at 9:48 AM
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Did you decide on gifts for your parents and their SO's? What did you end up getting them all?
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Kayla · on June 21, 2019 at 9:52 AM
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I kind of figured it out. We are getting most everyone a picture frame. I got my mom and MIL robes for while we get ready. My dad I'm getting a flask that says father of bride and my mom I'm getting a wine tumbler that says mother of bride. I'm not sure whay my fiance is getting his dad or step dad but I'm at a point that that's his job and I kind of don't care haha it's all coming together thankfully!
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Clíodhna · on June 21, 2019 at 9:55 AM
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They're great gifts! I'm sure they will love them!
Yes let him sort his dad and stepdads gifts
Just 28 days left! How is your planning coming along? Have you much left on the to-do list?
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Kayla · on June 21, 2019 at 9:58 AM
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Thank you! And it's coming along alright just mostly little things now besides getting a final count for my caterer and whatnot. Gotta get my dress back from being altered here soon but other then that just small details! 😊
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Clíodhna · on June 21, 2019 at 10:01 AM
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Are you so excited to see your dress again?! How long has it been gone?
When is your RSVP deadline? Have you many outstanding?
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Beginner July 2019
Kayla · on June 21, 2019 at 10:24 AM
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I am excited it's been gone maybe about two weeks or so. And our RSVP deadline was yesterday so I need to start calling and messaging people. We probably have over a hundred that still haven't RSVP'd but some of it is my family that I know isn't coming from England.
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Clíodhna · on June 21, 2019 at 10:26 AM
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Ah, I see! How many people did you invite in total? How many are you expecting will be able to make it?
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Beginner July 2019
Kayla · on June 21, 2019 at 10:39 AM
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We invited about 140 and I'm hoping around 90 or 100 come but im thinking that may not be the case haha
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Keshia · on July 11, 2019 at 2:15 PM
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I have found that gifts.com is a great place to get personalized gifts, pretty inexpensive, and they have a standard shipping rate for everything in your order, as opposed to etsy.com; where everything is coming from different vendors and you have to pay shipping costs on each individual item. Wish I had found them sooner!
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Beginner July 2019
Kayla · on July 12, 2019 at 8:19 PM
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Thank you I will have to check them out! Ya etsy can be nice but you definitely have to pay attention to where it's coming from and the shipping!
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