Gifts for in laws to be?

I definitely am. I've found some really sweet things on etsy.

I've heard this is the etiquette. FFIL isn't in the picture so he obviously won't be getting anything, but FMIL will be getting something I found on Etsy as well. If she doesn't make me get ready in a cat groomer's RV and host a piza party for the rehearsal dinner, that is...

We are giving small gifts to all of our parents - my mom and dad, his mom and stepdad, his dad and stepmom. Even if they aren't providing financial support for the wedding, they have emotionally supported us and our relationship.

It would be a nice gesture as well as a great way to start your marriage to their son

Atwood, if she tries, I am gonna be so there to come up with solutions to plmk!

This may be going against everyone here... BUT... I'm a firm believer in the extreme power of a simple thank you note. And not a "Thank you for the gift. It's wonderful" kind of note. A REAL thank you, that reminds those people how blessed you are to have them in your life, and what it means to have them there to celebrate this special time with you. I would have much rather had that than any gift I received for any wedding I've ever been in/helped with.

I plan on giving a little thank you "token of our appreciation" at the rehearsal dinner to both sets of parents with a mini speech/acknowledgement, and then I plan on buying the parent albums as a "thank you for financially helping". Both sides are contributing financially in my case.

I agree with Lizzie. The trend of giving gifts like it's someone's birthday is incredibly stupid to me. It's not a birthday, it's a wedding, and what is more important is not giving someone the ice cream maker they always wanted, it's letting them know how much their support and love has meant to the couple. A heartfelt thank you note, and a gift that is appropriate to the occasion is fine, but "gift like it's their birthday" I consider the single-most idiotic piece of advice I've seen on WW.

That said, we won't be gifting FH's mother since that side of the family is barely involved in his life to begin with, and they're also not financially helping. I'm not AGAINST giving them anything, but we don't have any particularly emotional reason to gift them. We will be privately gifting my parents since they have supported us considerably, and also are gifting us our reception bar. We're doing welcome bags for anyone who stays in our hotel block, and for my parents we are doing a much nicer version with some engraved shotglasses and other items, and a lovely thank-you note.

I am giving my Mom, Dad, & FMIL personalized handkerchiefs on the wedding day. Definitely check Etsy for gift ideas though!

I think a small gift would be nice. My FMIL and FFIL are paying for the whole shindig, so we hope to gift them a nice photo album of the wedding pictures and some nice wine from a local winery here in northern California. For my mother, we will gift her a framed wedding photo.

I'm planning on doing gifts for my FMIL & FFIL because I truly love them and they have helped both financially and emotionally. It then spurred my FI to ask "Do I need to get my parents and your parents a gift?" (The gifts I found are really personal so I don't think he will want to just jump in on mine) Are your FI/FH giving gifts as well or did you decide to go in together on all gifts? (I'm a planner by nature so I have found what I would like to give but haven't purchased yet)

This gifting everyone trend stinks of WIC-induced guilt to me. Your BMs, parents and family don't need tacky shotglasses or scraps of fabric to make them feel good about your wedding, or being your friends/family. It's just wasted money. Spend the time and effort on spending time with them, or writing them a lovely note.

That said, a hostess gift is usually appropriate - the aunts hosting my shower will be getting a box of artisanal chocolates.

We're getting gifts for both my parents, FMIL, and FHs grandparents. My mom is the only person who is contributing financially (flowers, shower, rehearsal dinner, and day after brunch) but we kind of just want to thank them for raising us and supporting our relationship. We're giving our mom's and his grandma canvas totes with their first name embroidered on it, my mom is getting a satin robe with her monogram embroidered on it. FMIL and FHs grandma are getting coffee mugs with our engagement photos on it, and my mom, dad, and FHs grandpa are getting canvas prints of our favorite engagement photo. We also are getting my dad his favorite Christmas candy (the ribbons) since our wedding is the week after Christmas and roasted nuts. We will probably also give one other little thing like that to FMIL and the grandparents.

I should note we wont be doing Christmas this year since I have to work in the hospital that day and our wedding is the following week. So, we are doing a little extra because we normally give them all Christmas gifts.

We are giving both sets of parents picture frames with our invitation wording engraved on the other side.