I am wondering do I pull the plug on the MOH gift? She had offered to do the shower for us. However we knew she could afford all. So we paid for the main catering, all decorations, the gifts for prizes, the wine, the whole candy bar. What she did: made print outs , sent virtual invitations via text, purchased silverware, some odds and ends. So all that was left was food shopping like condiments, water , fruit. Maybe 100 dollars in food left. Behind my back she ask in laws family for money to help pay. Pretty much she didn't pay for anything now. Says its tradition for them to pay.