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Just Said Yes May 2021

Gift from bride to Mom + Mom in law?

Amy, on March 11, 2021 at 8:03 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 18
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Hey brides!


Trying to figure out what to gift my mother and mother in law for the wedding. I was looking at jewelry, but should they match?
Any other ideas for non-jewelry gifts?
Thanks!

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Latest activity by Michael, on March 15, 2021 at 11:48 AM
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    Judith ·
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    If you have a particular reason for wanting to give them gifts, I am not out to stop you. But wedding time is when others give you gifts, and you graciously accept them, without giving gifts back. Just as you give your parents gifts on their birthdays, Mother's Day, Father's Day, and their Anniversary. And for any non- routine event, a promotion or retirement.
    Giving parents gifts is not a part of weddings, though the gift industry has been trying to get couples to give gifts to everyone ( here on WW, note the recent push, nice gifts to give your sister-in-law).
    If you are getting gifts because you have been led to believe you should, just DON'T. ... There never til recently have been gifts to propose to attendants, in fact something a lot of people dislike because it makes them feel pressured. It never has been necessary to give any robes or shirts to wear to get ready in, and in fact a lot of people find it irritating, one more time brides have taken to dressing their friends like dolls for the bride's pictures. The same way with gifting all BM the same jewelry, when people would prefer to wear their own . The only people you need get a gift are your attendants, or sometimes someone who has done you a major service, amd that is onlly a gift if you choose some individual thing for each one, and shop as if it was their birthday. Something for their interests, not generoc same things for everyone. And anything your ladies or family wears for your pictures, inc robes, jewelry, does not count as a gift at all. . More thank you notes are needed, and hundreds to thousands less in gifts, every time you turn around, such that they seem meaningless. Standard etiquette, including weddings, is that if someone gives you a gift of money for something you want or need, you Do Not give them a gift back. You thank them, sincerely, in writing. Otherwise, they are essentially getting some of their money back, and it is meaningless. This applies to parents, too. After the wedding, gifts of pictures or copies of a video, are a nice sentimental thing. A heartfelt letter they will reread many times actually matters than another gift from the wedding budget.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    I bought my stepmom a small makeup bag that has “best bonus mom ever” on it & a small jewelry holder that has “thanks for loving me as one of your own”. I bought my FMIL an ornament (she loves Xmas) that says “thank you for raising the man of my dreams “.
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    Lisa ·
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    I was thinking about a “thank you” type of card/sentiment also. A mom would love being acknowledged for raising a wonderful person! Knowing your MIL loves Christmas, the ornament was a great idea.
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  • Katie
    Rockstar August 2020
    Katie ·
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    We gave our parents a framed photo of our engagement photo with a card thanking them for everything from the wedding to raising us ❤️
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  • Elizabeth
    Expert June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    I would skip these gifts tbh. But if you want to go for it, my mother loved the olivewood spoon set I got for her. Also a beautifully framed picture from the wedding is a great gifr
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Skip the gifts and write a heartfelt letter.

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  • Mrs. Spring
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    Mrs. Spring ·
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    I didn't realize it was the custom to give parents gifts
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I got my mom and mother in law matching jewelry
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    Super September 2020
    Alli ·
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    I did not gift mother or in law... 1. I couldn’t think of anything - because neither need anything at all lol and 2. I focused on wedding and myself ♥️
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  • Katie
    Rockstar August 2021
    Katie ·
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    I got the mothers these really cute bracelets from Stella valle one is a pink heart for the mother of the bride and has engraved on it mother of the bride for a day, best friend for life. For the mother of the groom it's a blue heart and has engraved on it mother of the groom for the day, best friend for life.
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  • Shelly
    Rockstar January 2022
    Shelly ·
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    We're planning on giving our mothers a framed photo from our engagement shoot, and plan on replacing it with a picture of us and them from our wedding when we get them back! We're also going to hand write a note to them.

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  • Melanie
    Dedicated April 2021
    Melanie ·
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    Gift from bride to Mom + Mom in law? 2I picked insulated wine tumblrs because we’re having a beach wedding. Figured they’d be able to use them all week long! And into the summer season. But like pp have stated, framed photos is a super simple way to gift!

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    Lady ·
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    I didn't get them gifts on the day of but designed and ordered them both wedding albums once we got our pictures back!

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  • A
    Just Said Yes May 2021
    Amy ·
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    Thank you everyone! I love giving gifts and celebrating people, so I think I’m going to find something small for them as a token of my appreciation. These are all great ideas!
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  • Marshaya
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    Marshaya ·
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    Geesh!! We haven't thought this far out.. We will have to brainstorm and get to clicking these computer buttons... Happy Planning 💐
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    Fred (Frédolino) ·
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    Michael ·
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    Ever thought about wine? I got some gifting ideas to pass around.
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