If you have a particular reason for wanting to give them gifts, I am not out to stop you. But wedding time is when others give you gifts, and you graciously accept them, without giving gifts back. Just as you give your parents gifts on their birthdays, Mother's Day, Father's Day, and their Anniversary. And for any non- routine event, a promotion or retirement. Giving parents gifts is not a part of weddings, though the gift industry has been trying to get couples to give gifts to everyone ( here on WW, note the recent push, nice gifts to give your sister-in-law). If you are getting gifts because you have been led to believe you should, just DON'T. ... There never til recently have been gifts to propose to attendants, in fact something a lot of people dislike because it makes them feel pressured. It never has been necessary to give any robes or shirts to wear to get ready in, and in fact a lot of people find it irritating, one more time brides have taken to dressing their friends like dolls for the bride's pictures. The same way with gifting all BM the same jewelry, when people would prefer to wear their own . The only people you need get a gift are your attendants, or sometimes someone who has done you a major service, amd that is onlly a gift if you choose some individual thing for each one, and shop as if it was their birthday. Something for their interests, not generoc same things for everyone. And anything your ladies or family wears for your pictures, inc robes, jewelry, does not count as a gift at all. . More thank you notes are needed, and hundreds to thousands less in gifts, every time you turn around, such that they seem meaningless. Standard etiquette, including weddings, is that if someone gives you a gift of money for something you want or need, you Do Not give them a gift back. You thank them, sincerely, in writing. Otherwise, they are essentially getting some of their money back, and it is meaningless. This applies to parents, too. After the wedding, gifts of pictures or copies of a video, are a nice sentimental thing. A heartfelt letter they will reread many times actually matters than another gift from the wedding budget.
I bought my stepmom a small makeup bag that has “best bonus mom ever” on it & a small jewelry holder that has “thanks for loving me as one of your own”. I bought my FMIL an ornament (she loves Xmas) that says “thank you for raising the man of my dreams “.
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I was thinking about a “thank you” type of card/sentiment also. A mom would love being acknowledged for raising a wonderful person! Knowing your MIL loves Christmas, the ornament was a great idea.
I got the mothers these really cute bracelets from Stella valle one is a pink heart for the mother of the bride and has engraved on it mother of the bride for a day, best friend for life. For the mother of the groom it's a blue heart and has engraved on it mother of the groom for the day, best friend for life.
We're planning on giving our mothers a framed photo from our engagement shoot, and plan on replacing it with a picture of us and them from our wedding when we get them back! We're also going to hand write a note to them.
I picked insulated wine tumblrs because we’re having a beach wedding. Figured they’d be able to use them all week long! And into the summer season. But like pp have stated, framed photos is a super simple way to gift!