Getting Ready Alone

Why alone? :-(

I specifically chose a dress that would be easy to put on so I wouldn't need to find someone for help. There is one hook in the back, though, that I was planning to ask my sister to do for me, but now I'm not sure. Her husband is not coming to the wedding (b/c he thinks our family doesn't like him), and she asked me to tell our family in advance so she wouldn't have to talk about it the day of. I did, and when I told her I did, she THEN asked me not to talk about him to anyone, b/c she thinks I make him look bad. I am SICK of this man and his paranoia! And I am SICK of her being blind to that fact that HE makes HIMSELF look bad! I almost told her not to come. I am glad I didn't, but still, I don't really want to ask her to do up the hook for me anymore. . . Hopefully I can figure out how to do it myself because it would be soo embarrassing if I have to ask the photographer's wife for help!

I can't even get in my dress alone.

If I could get dressed by myself I would. It would be like a calm before the storm moment for me. I'm a very private person so it would be ideal for me...I hate the idea of my bridesmaids getting to see it all hang out before the dress goes on lol... I'm sorry there's so much drama going on with him- he sounds like a real tool.

Barbara this makes me sad! If I was closer, I would come have mimosas with you and get that hook done!

A young couple eloped here to Sarasota. The B didn't want the G to see her in the dress before she walked down the aisle. He asked me to go to their motel room and help her. I zipped her up, tied her sash, gave her the flowers, held her train as we walked down the wet outdoor steps, loaded her into my car and drove us to the ceremony location.

Left her at the car while I went to the ceremony spot. I sent the photographer to get her (train needed to be held up again because ground was still wet from rain). Videographer, groom, and I waited for her to walk up the aisle.

By the way, I'm an OFFICIANT -- not a planner, not a DOC, not a MOB or MOH. But, I do what's needed!

If you're going to be alone, be sure you can get dressed by yourself.

Awww, I'm sorry! I would totally help you, too! I'm getting ready alone, as well, but it's by choice. Still debating asking a friend to get there early and help with the two hooks I have to fix, but my photographer's wife (assistant) is so nice, I don't think she'd mind helping.

Sorry to hear it! You don't have anyone else you could ask?

And as far as the whole getting changed in front of everyone--I am not at all okay with that and will be putting on my full slip privately then my sister will help me lace up my dress. No way no how am I dropping my clothes in front of everyone!!

I didn't want to get ready alone, but my sister/MOH had her toddler daughter next door and graciously realized having her in my room would be too stressful. My mom had to stay with the toddler while my sister would go in and out of the room to check on the vendors. The MUA told me to enjoy the quiet and I guess I did.

My sister came back 5 minutes before the ceremony started to help me with my dress. That part was extremely stressful and chaotic. I was so scared I'd rub makeup onto the dress or rip it from rushing, so I definitely suggest having whoever help you do that well in advance!

I can get my dress on alone but will just have my mom with me. I don't think I would want a lot of people around anyways they would just get on my nerves.

I got ready alone and loved it. No rush, it was very calm.

Oh my photog and her assistant laced up the dress back

Where are you? I'll come hook up your dress!

I actually wouldn't mind the quiet of getting ready alone, with some music and a mimosa... like calm before the crazy storm...

I think that one teen plus a bunch of others is gonna stress me out for sure. I know your sad, but at least you wont have any of the stress of that bil drama!!!

You're in NYC, I'll help you!

Thanks ladies for the support and the very kind offers to help! How awesome would it be to have Mama Tina, GC, Kim, and Fit Bride all together in the same room??

I definitely appreciate that getting ready alone will probably be much more relaxing than having a bunch of people around. I get really anxious and a little mean when I'm stressed, so probably better to avoid people at that time anyway, but still, there are some situations when it makes me sad that I don't have anyone I can really enjoy sharing that time with. Like when my coordinator asked me who would be there when I was getting ready, and the answer "no one" put her in a state of stunned silence

Nancy-- that is a really touching story and I'm so glad that the bride and groom had you there to help them--I can imagine it was such a huge weight off of their shoulders! I know, logically, that there are tons of good people in this world, but I still don't take it for granted when I hear a story like that

MrsLewis-- you have no idea! The whole situation is very frustrating, and our family is close to their wit's end b/c when she had separated from him about four years ago, everyone really had to pitch in to keep her on her feet, only to have her go back to him after about a year. I don't expect her to feel beholden to us forever for that, but I do wish she'd at least consider it when he starts putting judgments in her head about us.

What a party! We might make you late for your own wedding. LOL!!

I know what you mean about feeling sad. I get twinges of sadness, but then I remind myself that it's okay not to have a gaggle in the room and that I'm going to be heading down the aisle to my best friend.