Getting pregnant before the big day

My advice would be to wait. I have two children, but I’ve been pregnant 3 times and they were all VERY different. With my oldest child, I was sick my entire pregnancy to the point where I had to be put on an acid reflux machine and couldn’t work anymore. With my little one, I wasn’t sick at all just had to avoid certain foods. You never know what your pregnancy will be like until you’re experiencing it so I would hold off until after the wedding.

*medicine. I don’t know why it autocorrected to machine.

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Thank you for the advice. I was actually wondering what an acid reflux machine is, haha! It's all a bit daunting for someone who has never had a child so thank you for all the information. Very glad you are well and have three wonderful children

I just had my first child (she will be three weeks on Wednesday) and like Sarah mentioned every pregnancy is different. I had very little morning sickness, but there were certain smells I didn't like that would make me nauseous. Food I normally loved I hated during the first trimester and there were days I only wanted to eat one type of food (example pizza or burgers) because nothing else sounded good. I also had horrible heartburn throughout my entire pregnancy. I was living on Pepcid and tums and even then I still had really bad heartburn. As for when you will start showing, it can vary. In my opinion, I would wait until after you got married.

I am pregnant now. We postponed twice and wasn’t willing to push back family planning any longer because the age gap between our daughter & new baby. So it took us 5mo to get pregnant (started using actual ovulation kits about 3 mo in). Baby is due in July. Wedding is in October. I dont have very much room to lose weight but we will have our family and our wedding.
I definitely would not want to be pregnant at my wedding, you never know how you are going to feel.

You could feel nauseous all through pregnancy! I felt 24/7 nauseous until 14 weeks and then started showing a little at exactly 14 weeks too lol. Not only that, but I was so totally exhausted my first trimester too. Falling asleep constantly lol. Didn’t even get much better second trimester. Every woman is different though and every pregnancy is different. It’s a gamble on how you’ll feel if you do decide to get pregnant. But it depends what your priorities are!

Oh Sophia. I am pregnant with my first child right now, and very recently my FH & I decided to move up our original (pre-pregnancy) date from 3rd trimester to the safer 2nd trimester. I had my instincts to change but somehow listened to my FH and my parents who wanted to keep the original date out of convenience for out of town guests. My man actually told me we could retire early and let the party keep going. I would have worn gym shoes for my 8th month ceremony. Smh.

Then it took a long, emotional day to accept that I am no longer in control of my body or emotions, so we are taking steps to "shotgun" this wedding, so to speak. So I say, try your best to choose what is healthy and safe for you and your family. And also, maybe take a pregnancy test or two before you buy a bridal dress. Good luck!

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I was pregnant with my first when I was married I had morning sickness my entire pregnancy you can’t drink and I think it would be memorable if you waited each pregnancy is different if you are bigger girl you won’t show til later but I showed instantly and I’m a little big,

Wait! As exciting as becoming pregnant and starting a family is, it will definitely ruin your wedding experience! We decided to start trying 1 year after our wedding. I am now pregnant and I can tell you, I would have been so sad being pregnant with so many restrictions on my wedding day!

Thank you for the advice ladies. It sounds like it could be a big gamble as to how I would feel on the day so not ideal. A friend of mine will be in her 3rd trimester on her wedding and she doesn't seem to be scared/bothered about her experience on the actual day. She's not even considering moving the wedding date so I thought maybe it's not a big deal if you are indeed pregnant on your wedding day but the risks are there as you said!

I’m pregnant right now (2nd trimester) and my opinion is I would wait. You never know how your body is going to feel everyday and man do emotions become a rollercoaster. You also don’t know what size dress to get (having that issue with my bridesmaid dress that is for a wedding in august). There is also a limit of some foods you can eat. I love food so that is something I wouldn’t have wanted to worry at my wedding.

You DEFINITELY need to research pregnancy more.

You can find month by month bump photos online. I would look at those to get a sense of how your body might change over pregnancy.

Every woman is different - some women show a lot, others not so much, some show earlier than others, some carry their bump out front or to the sides or high or low. Some have awful morning sickness or a condition called hyperemesis gravidarum that can last throughout the duration of your pregnancy, and some don't get sick or nauseous at all. Some women end up on bedrest for most of their final semester and others remain highly active throughout their pregnancy right up until the moment they go into labor.

I totally understand the nerves about having ample time to start a family, but I wouldn't intentionally aim to be pregnant on my wedding day. Pregnancy will impact how you feel, how your dress fits, and what sort of things you can enjoy on your big day (forget drinking, you'll need to avoid certain foods, and possible swelling could mean no or limited dancing, or you might just be puking the whole time). My husband and I got legally married during Covid last year at ages 34 and 37; our original plan was wedding, honeymoon, and start trying to start a family, but then Covid happened. We put off trying for a baby until earlier this year so I would be at most no more than 6 months along at the time of our wedding celebration this June, and I made sure to wear my wedding dress last year just in case I couldn't wear it this year. Every month has been a mix of emotions. I'm hopeful we will be able to fully enjoy our wedding next month and then we are lucky and get pregnant right after (and hopefully have a safe, healthy easy pregnancy), but its nearly impossible to know what your experience will be like. At 35, I feel like we are running out of time.

Best of luck to you!

I would definitely try to at least time it to where you are in your second trimester. First trimester has nausea, extreme exhaustion and terrible hormonal acne. 2nd trimester is much better for most women, and many women don’t show a lot until 20+ weeks.

We were supposed to get married April 2020 and the plan was wedding then start a family. But COVID changed my perspective on life. I was 39 going on 40 and who knew then how long this pandemic would last. Unfortunately, at a certain age, you just don’t know how long it’ll take to get pregnant so we prioritized starting a family. Well, we had a hold on a new wedding date for Nov 2021 and were getting ready to sign the new contract this June when I found out I was pregnant. So, now we’re trying to figure out our plan of action as far as wedding goes, whether we just stick with the date. Long story short, there are personal considerations you need to take into account and what you feel is most important right now.

I would think the stress of a baby + wedding might be too much. Several of my friends lost their 1st pregnancy. One friend miscarried about 2 months before her wedding! You could tell the wedding was painful for her and her husband. If it were me, I’ve have one before the other.