Getting Guests Addresses

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Hi Laura,

Yeah one would assume the same thing? No address? You know why I'm asking? Then simply just remove them. Thank you for your input!

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Hi Formerbride:

I don't feel like I should have to Google family member's information. It's so.. strange, at least to me. These relatives know why I'm asking and they've read my messages and choose not to respond. Let's just say I were successful in getting some of their infos and then end up sending invites. They'd prob be thinking how the heck did I get their info, and makes me look desperate for them to come, which I'm not. I love most of my family and friends but I shouldn't need to hunt you down for your address. I think it's just ridiculous, I can be spending my time doing other things. I can definitely see what's going to happen around RSVP time.

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I hear where you're coming from, Gabby and I might have to do the same thing.

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Hey Fab,

Thank you for your input!

We had 3 that didnt reply to the address request & we are fairly close to 2. They didnt get invited. We have not followed up. It will be just fine. Theres more room to invite someone who wants to be there & will show up. Congrats & know that as long as you & your honey are there, you will have a PHENOMENAL day!

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Hi Jamie,

Some folks are just so rude, you know? What is the issue with providing addresses? And it's worse because you were close with two of them. I don't blame you for not inviting them. It's so easy to answer your phone or answer a text and let you know their address. How were they expecting their invitations? You know what I mean? It's actually a bit pathetic to me. It's bad for me too, because they've read the messages and have chosen not to respond. It's like a spit in my face. So I don't want to hear no drama or gossip when they don't get invited. I have other things I need to do in my planning, and I shouldn't have to chase people for their addresses. It's lame to me. Imagine what I'm going to have to put up with in terms of the RSVPS. Sigh... thank you so much for your positivity, and same with you as well! Your wedding day is coming up SO fast, have you checked most things off of your list??

Here's what I believe...the way people choose to interact with you (self included) says more about them than it does about you....to me this is for all aspects of life. Sure, it can be considered rude but life is too short to tarry there and give these types of things too much energy. Yes honey brace yourself for the RSVP period!! I have a good amount of the big things "done" and yet I still have so much more to do! I'm just way too excited!!!!! My excitement builds each day & whatever "yesterday's" worries were, every day I have a renewed sense of clarity that builds my excitement!!!!!

I agree with PPs. If people can’t be bothered to respond, then take them off your list. If they reach out after the fact and ask why you didn’t invite them, tell them you reached out multiple times with no response. Wedding deadlines are time sensitive!

If you've reached out multiple times with no response, just don't invite them.

My future mil drove me nuts with this. I had all my sides addresses and waited on her FOREVER to give me her sides so we could send Save the Dates. When I finally get them, some of them said stuff like “Dana and husband” seriously?! You want me to invite these people (to a wedding my fiancé and I are paying for by ourselves) and you don’t know both the couples name!?! 🤦🏼‍♀️ My fiancé finally got all the names and addresses but it felt like to me if it was such a pain that these people shouldn’t be invited.
I needed a couple addresses and just sent a quick text and got responses from friends and family within a few hours. If someone just ignored me for days? Weeks? Sorry, they’re not getting an invite anymore as they clearly are not interested.