Elisse
Just Said Yes October 2020

Getting anxious!

Elisse, on June 7, 2020 at 11:06 AM Posted in Planning 2 34
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Hi everyone! How are the brides doing?
We are to get married in October. AND I AM STRESSING OUT. We are uncertain of what to do and all the planning has seized because of COVID. We have a plan B but all this time with no planning is making me more anxious than ever! Any advice? What are y’all covid couples doing?

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  • Jenna
    Dedicated September 2020
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    Our date is Sept 6 in mid MO. Our plan now is to have it no matter what. We have 250 invited but we’re totally fine with cutting the guest list!
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  • Breanna
    Devoted September 2020
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    September 26th and we're continuing on with the wedding! We'll have a smaller ceremony if we have to and talk about postponing the reception a month before if we need to. As of right now everything is continuing as planned.
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
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    Hi date twin! Well, right now I’m doing a whole lot of nothing with regard to the wedding. Thankfully we were done with planning and everything back in January (so purchasing invitations and a few small/less significant items is all that’s left). The goal was to enjoy our 2020 year of engagement without wedding planning. But doing so in quarantine was not what we had in mind. So recently, I’ve just been touching base with my vendors and following the path of this pandemic (and now the protests) to see if we will have to postpone or not. We’re having a destination wedding in Las Vegas and, although they opened a few hotels 3 days ago, our hotel is not open yet.


    FH and I initially discussed a Plan B and only intended to execute it if our hotel’s venue canceled on us. But between Covid and the protests, I can tell that FH is starting to lean more towards postponing sooner (and I don’t think I’m very far behind him on that idea). We only have 65 guests and yesterday we changed our Plan B to make a decision by August. However, even if things are “better” by August, that’s only two months before the wedding and I don’t know how much better things will really be. We can handle state guidelines about masks. But with a wedding in Vegas, having a reception party was a major part of the plan. So if we can’t dance and mingle, that would be a big deciding factor.
    I totally understand your concern. I think it’s definitely an individual decision based on a number of factors (i.e. location, number of guests, flexibility, guidelines that you’re comfortable with, etc.). I think I’m going to give it two weeks to weigh out the pros and cons and then decide whether we stick with October 2020 or move it to October 2021.
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  • Futuremrsn
    Devoted October 2020
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    10/4/20 here! No plans to reschedule again. Things are starting to look up health wise and we are looking forward to the big day!
    Wait til at least end of July to make a decision. We are keeping contact with our venue and they’ve been very helpful.
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  • Elisse
    Just Said Yes October 2020
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    Thank you everyone! For some reason y’all made me feel a little better! My fiancé has been great in reassuring me and just the relaxed one! I have come in contact with out organizer and I’m waiting to hear from them ☺️
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  • Katie
    Dedicated October 2021
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    September 1, in Tuscany, and still a go! Looking like borders are opening and everything going positive...but obviously the world is still uncertain. We’re going forward with it as long as there are no travel restrictions/ quarantines and it is safe.


    What really helped us is sending out a survey to our guests...we wanted to know what everyone else was thinking because if we only had 10 guests that would be different than say 40 (out of the 105 people that were a “yes” prior to covid). The survey results are saying that 55% are still a “yes” given there are no restrictions! That really gave us peace of mind with our decision to keep moving as long as everything is opening up and safe.
    That being said our Italian wedding planner has told us to hold off planning until the next announcement June 15. I’m getting antsy too! We’re already less that 80 days til our flight leaves and I’d say we still have 70% of planning to do. Ah!
    I definitely understand how you’re feeling, hopefully we’ll all have more clarity what the future holds soon! Good luck to you!
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  • Elizabeth
    Just Said Yes October 2020
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    I just want to say... Wedding in Tuscany = SO JEALOUS!!! Smiley heart

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  • Elizabeth
    Just Said Yes October 2020
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    Our date is 10/17/2020 and it is going to stay that way! (Haha) Waited nearly 12 years to get married! I have had many friends who had to postpone their Spring weddings, and my heart goes out to them. But at the end of the day, the most important part is that you have found the one whom your heart loves. Smiley heart Enjoy your engagement because it only happens once. I have good faith that the show will go on, and be even more special than you could ever imagine! Hang in there, beautiful.

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  • Talia
    Savvy October 2021
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    Mines in December I am sad because it is a cruise wedding But I do have Plan B put in place it is sad that is happening to us but I’m pray that there is a blessing in disguise
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  • J
    Just Said Yes October 2020
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    We were planning on getting married 10/3 and we’re actually leaning toward postponing it until next year. There’s so much talk about a second wave, even though things are looking up now. It’s so anxiety-provoking because no one knows what’s going to happen.
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  • Candice
    Devoted July 2020
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    My fiance and I decided no on rescheduling we are getting married on our date no matter what 7/11/20. We cancelled our big 100 person indoor wedding/ reception and are just waiting for information now before we invite anyone to a smaller event on the date. Frankly you have to let go of the Pinterest perfect wedding idea. What is really important to you? What do you really want? If I have to get married through my glass door I want to keep my date. If we do get to have people join us it's not going to fancy. They will still need to wear masks and can't dance due to social distancing. They'll get fed, there will be music. Outside of that people need to give us some slack and shouldn't come if they are going to be snippy about it not being how they expect it. It's really hard not to be a people pleaser to the point you make yourself miserable. My husband is in event planning. He says any party can be planned in less than two months as long as you have a venue set. For us we're waiting until two weeks out to tell our amended guest list if the party is still on, I almost want to fake it's a coed shower just to avoid everyone else's wedding panic and craziness in those two weeks.

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  • Holly
    Dedicated October 2020
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    We are hoping and praying every day that October will be ok for weddings. We were supposed to be married yesterday. Ugh! But family and friends made the day extra special for us. Anyway, the only thing certain is uncertainty. we're all in this together!! You are not alone 💕
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  • Shae
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    10/17/20 bride here and although we are still on as of now, we are leaning towards canceling this year and downsizing our already small wedding (85) to a microwedding (under 50) in Vegas sometime next year. Our current venue gave us until 6/13 to cancel and get our full refund (we are still able to postpone after that point), so we are looking to finalize our decision ASAP. Although I’m in Texas and we’re mostly open, the COVID numbers are still rising or steady in Dallas where we’re getting married. Most of our family and friends will be traveling from all over the US and I have a bridesmaid, her hubby, and child, coming from Japan. Plus, our grandparents and my father (cancer survivor) are immune compromised. It could be fine, but I just worry about all the variables, and at this point I’m worrying constantly rather than enjoying the process. Plus, all the constant questions from everyone is driving me insane. I also don’t want masks in pictures, I want to hug and kiss my loved ones, and I absolutely love to dance close with everyone, which I don’t see happening (at least comfortably) in October. In addition to COVID, I lost my mom suddenly in February and I’m still struggling with grief and it’s hard to keep myself motivated at times. I’m just scared to continue planning at this point. I say all of this to say, there is no right or wrong decision, these are unprecedented times. As someone said it’s really dependent on you and your groom’s unique situation and what you all want. I keep reminding myself to remember it’s about us and starting our lives together as husband and wife. Good luck with your decision!
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  • K
    Savvy October 2020
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    You're very fortunate your venue is giving you until 6/13 for a full refund. Mine is saying no refunds.

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  • Sarah
    Just Said Yes August 2020
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    I feel your pain. I’m getting married in August and it’s a bit much. The venue says we’re ok for now with restrictions lifting and our outdoor ceremony is ok as long as under 100 ppl. So stay optimistic. We are planning to put dinner tables 6’ apart and have two boxes of masks for ppl to take. I mean it’s hard but we will get through this
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  • Tara
    Devoted August 2020
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    Our date is 8/22 and just got word from our venue that we can continue almost normally. Minimal restrictions, but we can work with it. I dropped planning during the COVID19 lockdown, so here we are 75 days out and it’s getting real! My bridal shower is the end of this month. I am getting excited again, but also stressed.
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  • Shae
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    Yes, we are very fortunate our venue has been very flexible so far. And I’m sorry to hear that! Our venue made an exception due to the circumstances, but technically our contract is similar to what you’re saying and we wouldn’t normally get a refund. Are they allowing you to postpone if needed?
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  • Danielle
    Savvy October 2021
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    Girl, same. Our date is 10/31 and pretty much everything is set. Normally I’d be starting to get everything squared away but I’ve been putting it off to see what happens. We are going to decide to keep our date or move our date at the end of the month. We have decided we rather move our date than elope or do something smaller.the limbo is killing me.
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
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    Not a covid bride but my bff is and her date is 9/19 and she said she’s gonna continue on even though she thinks her guest list will be cut a lot . I hope things work out for you
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  • K
    Savvy October 2020
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    Hi Shae, yes they are. My wedding is October 24th in Dallas also. I don't plan to reschedule though. The only way i'll reschedule is if the venue is closed due to CoVid. We didn't expect CoVid this year, so there is no telling what's in store for next year. So, i am planning away for October.



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