Gender Roles

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It's funny that you mentioned killing bugs and doing repairs because when it comes to that my husband calls me a "girly girl". It's not that I can't do it, I just prefer not to, but if my husband is at work or something then I absolutely will.

No, and I am SO used to hearing the same thing. My fiance is both mexican and italian and his mother knows how to make amazing italian and mexican food and taught him to do the same. I know how to cook but he is definitely a better cook than I am and knows how to make a larger variety of cooking so he cooks a lot when he can. He also helps with dishes, laundry, vacuuming, and tidying up the house in general and I really appreciate that but think it's sad that people try to make me feel bad about having a partner that does his share of the housework, etc. I don't understand why so much is put on women, whether we are working or not.

View Quoted Comment It's different for some people to evolve and change their old minsets. I think it's great that your future husband does not mind doing his fair share of the household responsibilities. Don't feel bad for finding love in the 21st century.

What one partner can do, the other can fill in the gaps of what they can't do. Gender roles came from children being raised to do one thing in the household. Boys were taught to provide and protect, women were raised to cook clean and nurture. I do believe in gender roles to an extent but it's become more of a "I can do this, you can do that" kind of thing which works best for us.

Anything that needs doing is a joint responsibility, not solely one persons based on gender. Both me and my man are very open minded with our approaches to things. He cooks, washes the dishes, does laundry and cleans. I do the same.

I will never discourage him from doing anything, and he supports me in anything I want to do too.

I proposed to him, but it doesn't bother us. He was married before, and he proposed then. I've been engaged before, so I've been proposed to. So, we've both done each side now.

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I agree with this comment.

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I like the idea of everything being a joint responsibility that is shared between the couple.

No! If my fiancé and I did our roles based on our gender we would be eating burned food almost every day (I’m a horrible cook) but he is great at it and loves it! So he does most of the cooking if anything all off the cooking he also likes to keep things nice and clean while I like to keep it organized so we work together to keep the house in order. You normally see the men taking the dogs out in the morning or night but that’s something I enjoy doing.

Gender roles are ridiculous.

For our household, my husband prefers to do the dishes and most of the cleaning because he likes things a certain way. I usually handle finances and appointments because I'm detail oriented and am familiar with the financial industry. We trade off cooking meals and help each other with a lot of little things. As long as you're communicating in your relationship, whatever works, works.

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I love that you and your fiance share the household responsibilities.

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I agree that communication is key in a relationship.