My Fiancee has several family members who have outwardly spoken their distaste for the LGBT community. I have written a letter that I want to send to them. My FMIL and FW think its TOO nice.
"As you may have heard, I have recently become engaged. Becca and I have been together for quite some time now, and we both are very happy! You may be wondering why I am writing you this letter, and that is to let you know that I love you very much, and it would make me incredibly happy to see you on my special day. However, I know that this may clash with your beliefs and feelings. While I would be very happy to celebrate with you I also would never ask you to change what you believe or ask you to do something that would make you uncomfortable. That being said I would like to know if you would like to join me on my special day, your answer doesn’t change the love I have for you, it just allows me to adjust our guest list, and invitation list without"