Garter Toss - Yay or Nay?

It’s a big hell no for me! The last thing I want is for my father to watch my FH pull off my undergarments with his teeth. As sexy as we both are, it just leaves the room and comfortable in my opinion. But again this is totally just my honest opinion and many other people definitely don’t feel the way that I do about this

We did one! it was entertaining for people to watch that's for sure ahaha but in hindsight i think i would have given it another thought to not do it - not sure why we did it to begin with

I’m definitely doing the bouquet toss though. I’m really hoping that my Fbrother-in-law wants to propose to his girlfriend of 12 years at my wedding so that way I can do that thing that people on YouTube do where the girl pretends to throw the bouquet and then hands it to the girl that’sgoing to get proposed to🥰 lol. But obviously I would never push an engagement on anyone for my own personal satisfaction lol

We didn’t do the bouquet toss either, but I am very anti garter toss. My parents did it and they were traditional, but it makes me so uncomfortable. First the going under my dress, but then throwing it to a bunch of guys? No thank you.

We skipped both. I haven't been to a wedding with a garter toss in about 10 years. They just aren't popular by me. Plenty of bouquet tosses though. We just did t have that many single friends so it seemed silly to have like 4 women standing there.

Personally, I think the garter toss is a creepy and very weird “tradition.” For traditions in general, I would say keep the ones that feel meaningful to you, and leave the rest. Don’t do anything that doesn’t feel authentic to you just for the sake of tradition.

After my getting ready photos with my garter, my MOH walked it over to my DH (the grooms room was downstairs). He kept it in his pocket until we did the toss. I agree with others that it is creepy and did not want to have that done in front of family, but we wanted to keep the tradition of the toss.

I know it's "tradition" but as a guest I HAVE ALWAYS HATED being singled out for that stupid bouquet toss as a single woman at the weddings I have been to.... (which is around 15 or so total) the last 3 weddings i was at that did it, when they announced it was coming up i ran and hid in the bathroom... I feel for the guys too.... who wants to catch something that was on another man's wife's leg?!!! seriously?? let alone the creep factor.... one wedding i was at the bride sat on a chair and her groom couldn't find it after several discreet, embarrassed tries... he ended up through up the huge skirt to get his head under the full skirt, and she actually had to put her hands on her upper legs to keep him from showing off her underwear and thighs!!!! NO THANK YOU!!!

If neither of you want to do it, then you can skip it. It's not required. Also, it is possible (and folks have done in the past with no issues) to tastefully remove the garter without the stripper act intro that is so common on YouTube.

We’re skipping the bouquet toss and garter thing entirely. They stem from a terrible place, and I’d rather not continue that tradition. I find them incredibly awkward, and I don’t know anyone who actually enjoys the whole thing. Most weddings skip them these days.

One of the big issues with garter tosses is the expectation that the guy who catches it will put it on the girl who caught the bouquet. Rarely does anyone ask if that’s okay with either party which can put people in very uncomfortable situations. I absolutely wouldn’t want to make someone feel like they need to be touched by a stranger like that. If you do choose to do this, please ask for consent! (Although they may still feel obligated to say yes even if they don’t want to do it.)

More weddings than not actually do not have the catchers do any photo ops or interactions at all. While it's a justifiable concern, it doesn't cross most people's minds at the time of the event.

Nay! I am with your fiance, I find this tradition gross and outdated. We are not doing the garter toss or bouquet toss.

FH said it was weird and creepy that guys "fight" over something so personal like that. Quite honestly, I didn't care one way or another. We're skipping the garter toss but I'm still even debating the bouquet toss. FH wants to keep it cause he thinks it would be fun to watch because the women in my family are a bit crazy and he wants to see how they react to trying to catch it lol.

We are doing them both but I think we will skip the part of the tradition where the guy who caught the garter puts it on the girl who caught the bouquet. That’s the most awkward part for me. *shudders*

I’m skipping both. In the 15 or so weddings I have attended I’ve seen the garter toss done once and it was done at the bride’s mother’s insistence 🤷‍♀️

No to the garter toss and yes to the bouquet toss. Due to the pandemic we greatly decreased our guest list. I think we now only have three single women as guest. I will probably have the DJ announce that anyone can come out for it 🤷‍♀️

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That's what I've been thinking of doing. I dont want to have the guy put it on the girl who caught the bouquet. My family will probably laugh at him getting my garter its not like he needs to take it off w/ his teeth.

We didn't do either. Nobody missed it. No sweaty-awkward garter toss. We did the Hora though and father daughter /mother son dances so there was some traditional stuff. We also did a super low key cake cutting right after the parent dances that like nobody watched (which is what we wanted)

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I’m not doing a bouquet or garter toss. I think they always look awkward lol, but that’s my opinion. Just not my style