Garter Toss? Yay or Nay?

I wouldn't say it's trashy, but I do think it isn't fun, and can be embarrassing for some. We skipped tosses because we had a small guest list and mostly everyone wasn't single, so having only one or two people vying for a garter or bouquet would have been cruel and awkward.

It's dependant on the crowd and your guests. I'm personally not comfortable with the idea, neither is FH. I've watched Brides and Grooms enjoy themselves, I've watched FOB's uncomfortably watch from their tables, I've also seen guests enjoy it and some who actually ran away from the dance floor to avoid the aftermath (the person who catches the garter then putting it on the person who catches the bouquet). It is entirely up to you whether you want to do it. I'd just say, think about how your guests would feel, and then if it would make or break your night.

It’s awkward and embarrassing and kind of trashy. We are doing the dance for the longest married couple instead. The tossing bouquet becomes their prize.

I don't consider it trashy, more outdated. I'm not doing a bouquet or garter toss, just because it's an old tradition and more humiliating than fun in my opinion!

I think if it is a fun idea for you, then you should go for it. It is after all your wedding. If you have always thought that would be apart of your day, then do it. Who cares what others think-it’s your day. 😊


Most weddings I have been to, opted for the garter/bouquet toss.

I'm feeling the time crunch with my wedding (only 3 hours for the reception!) so I don't plan on doing many of those traditional things. We'll do first dance, maybe a couple toasts, a cake pull, and the cake cutting. Not even sure I want to do the flower toss.

The garter toss is not something that really appeals to me, and we have a more conservative crowd and both our families do not talk about sex ever, so I think it will be awkward. If FH wants it though, I'll do it.

What does your FH want to do?

I don't think its necessarily trashy, but for my FH and I we feel uncomfortable having everyone watch him go up my dress...just kind of awkward. Side note- we also aren't doing a bouquet toss

I think its really more of a know your crowd thing. I personally don't find them trashy and we will be doing both bouquet and garter toss

I'm not planning on a garter toss because I'm a very introverted person and I'd feel very uncomfortable having everyone see my new husband go under my dress. I have seen people enjoy it though. I saw a video of a groom who loves cars go under her skirt using the rolling thing you lay on to go under a car & pull out random mechanic things first, acting all confused. It was very funny & their group seemed to enjoy it.

We decided not to do that or the bouquet toss but I think it's personal preference. If both of you want to do it then do it! It's your day do it your way.

Garter tosses have been done at most of the weddings I’ve been to. I don’t think I’ve ever watched one in person and found it trashy necessarily (although the potential to make it trashy is certainly there), but I’m not really a fan. We’re skipping the garter and bouquet toss because I just genuinely have no interest in doing either one.

When I was single I genuinely didn't enjoy the bouquet toss so I'm not doing that- if I was up there I usually stood in the back and ducked. And the last thing both FH and I want would be the garter toss scene. I just saw a wedding video where during the garter toss literally all the single guys gathered ran off the dance floor. It was hilarious, but I would have been kinda embarrassed as the bride.

We are not doing a garter toss, it all depends on the crowd I guess and your future husband. Mine doesn't like to be the center of attention (LOL) so he doesn't want to do it which I'm totally ok with it! Cause it's aloyyle awkward for me as well. It's all up to you though!

Ew no. I don't like what it represents. You might want to google the meaning behind it.

I hated the bouquet toss when I was single so I always knew I would skip it (and the garter toss) at my own wedding. I don't think it's trashy as much as outdated and awkward for those forced to participate. And yes,it is forced as much as every bride on here who loves it says otherwise. Either the DJ, who relentlessly calls up allllllllll the single ladies, or that guy among your guests, who feels as if it's his responsibility to nudge the single women up there, let's it be known that there's no sitting it out. There's no way I wanted that at our wedding.

Eh. We are the kind of people who think it's going to be fun. Our group of friends is very sex positive and this is just something silly.

So yes we are doing a garter toss.

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Same, for the same reason. Not something I want a crowd around me to spectate.

Personally I don't want to do one just because I don't want to take the time out of the reception to make everyone watch the whole thing going on .. it's not so much I feel like it's trashy, I just think the whole thing about it as awkward like I don't need FH crawling up my dress to get a garter? I'm looking to pass on this one.

Like others have said, it's definitely a know-your-crowd kind of thing and truly depends on your FH's and your stance on it. I'm doing the bouquet toss because I think it'll be fun and my venue has a cool balcony I can toss it from. My FH, however, does not want to do a garter toss. The majority of the men at our wedding have wifes/girlfriends and I think he just feels awkward about it.

The thought of it just makes me cringe and I would be so awkward and uncomfortable doing this. I also hate the background of it and recommend reading into the history of this and many other wedding traditions