Garter.. Do or not to do?

Garters generally come in set so there is one that he takes off and there is a separate,less fancy one that you toss. But it sounds like he is more so uncomfortable doing this in front of people? If that is the case, then you may want to skip it.

Are you saying you would like to wear a garter even if he doesn't throw one? That seems fine because it is just between you and him!

I am doing a bouquet toss but my FH is not doing a garter toss. I am not even wearing one.

I made a little garter to wear, but only for FH's eyes. I've always found the garter toss to be the weirdest frickin' tradition... Why the hell would I want some other dude (including family) to catch something my husband just seductively slipped off my thigh?

But I felt a little sexier when I tried the garter on, so I recommend wearing one (or 2!)

I don't see anything wrong with you either skipping the toss but still wearing one or not wearing one at all. Nothing says that the garter toss is something that HAS to be done at every wedding.

Can you clarify if you just still want to wear a garter? Or still want to do the garter toss?

If he's uncomfortable with the garter toss then I would skip it. If you still really want to do it, you could make it more conservative by having it down on your like mid-calf

I was planning on skipping it, but then I saw a BAM by notallwhowanderarelost where the groom had a garter under his pant leg and she took it off of him! In her BAM everyone seemed to think it was hilarious. I love the idea and I'm going to see how FH feels about it when he gets home. Check out her BAM here:

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/bam-pro-non-pro-pics-and-video/5c7430df62bc44dc.html

ETA: just realized that I didn't actually answer your question. You can totally do a garter removal without tossing it, or wear a garter and not remove it at all. It's your wedding! Do what feels comfortable!

I wore a garter at my wedding, but we didn't do the throw. My husband did not pull it off me and no one knew I was wearing a garter except for myself and my husband. Wear one if you want to.

If you still want to do the garter throw, then take the garter off yourself and hand it to your husband to throw. Then he is comfortable because he didn't pull it off your leg and be all awkward, and you are happy because you get your garter throw.

We are skipping them completely but I think I am still going to wear the garter as my something blue. It would be just for FH after.

I've never seen a garter toss in person - only on TV movies, etc. Looks extremely awkward, to me.

Thank You all so so much for the advice. To answer the questions yes I want to wear on and do the Garter thing but my FH doesn't feel its right to throw something that is "sexy" and been on my thigh to gentlemen including family. I am so grateful I got so many comments Thank You All Again!! <3

I am going to discuss it more with my FH when he gets home. Happy Wedding Planning!!!

We're not going to do a garter or bouquet toss. I may wear a garter, but it won't be tossed. With as small as our guest list is there won't be many single males and females.

I didn't do it because I didn't feel comfortable with the whole thing. But I do think the idea of it on the guy is pretty comical. The last wedding we went to before ours they had the guy put it on the girl who caught the bouquet and wncouraged them to go mid thigh. Talk about awkward!!

Polish tradition says the bride throws the veil and the groom throws the tie. You could do that if either of you feel uncomfortable

I wore one, but didn't toss it. Just a little something for hubby afterwards. It was my "something blue"