Garter & bouquet toss

I am eliminating the garter toss because I don't love the image of my fiance's head shoved up my dress in front of our friends and family (we are Christian and a lot of our attendants are older church members and that sounds SUPER DUPER awkward). I'm on the fence about the bouquet toss... I never participated as a wedding attendee because I didn't like the idea of girls pushing and shoving for the sake of superstition. I know a lot of girls like the bouquet toss, though, so that's why I haven't decided yet. But definitely a no on the garter toss

I did both. Now a days I see people come up with their own versions of the toss

View Quoted Comment I am kinda with you and not even for being a religious region. I enjoy the bouquet toss but I feel like you either do both or none!

We aren't doing either. For the garter toss, neither my FH nor I liked the idea of him sticking his head under my dress in front of our nearest and dearest. And there isn't much point in us doing a bouquet toss as we only have two single women on our very small guest list, and I didn't want to pay for a second bouquet only to (literally) throw it away. I also never liked the idea of drawing attention to the fact that the women who participate in the bouquet toss are single.

I don’t plan on doing either.

We did neither. We opted for an anniversary dance instead & gave a bouquet of flowers to the winning couple. We forwent them because 1) we didn’t have a super high number of “single” guests & 2) the thought of throwing a garter that had been up my leg all night creeped me out lol.

We had both, and I'm happy we did! The garter toss was quick and not inappropriate at all, and my husband put the garter around a football instead.

We are not doing them for many reasons: 1) I want to keep my flowers and don't want to pay for a toss bouquet 2) neither of us likes attention 3) it doesn't feel right putting our friends/family on the spot like that 4) I don't want to disrupt the flow of the night for it 5) who wants their FH going up their skirt in front of grandparents, let alone their dad/brother?

We opted against it. Before we ever got engaged.
I spent most of my 20s single recuperating from a previous relationship, and I DESPISED going out there.
The only time I willingly participated, I was in the wedding party. And the photographer rudely told me I needed to move and was blocking her shot. [She wasnt a pro, obviously.] So I really dislike them, and have spent the last few weddings sneaking off to the restroom during the mother son dance.The garter toss is just cringey to us.So we're skipping it. Our wedding, we will do what we want.

We're not doing either. I've never found the garter toss to be anything but cringey, no matter how far down on the leg the garter was or how they threw it. The concept behind it is just icky to us.

Singling out (no pun intended) the single people is also just generally uncomfortable. I never liked participating in the bouquet toss when I was single and I know my friends don't like it either. Not many of them are single anymore, and having any number of grown women pretend to reach for/playfully fight over a bouquet just isn't appealing to me or anyone in my circle.

If people want to do these, more power to them. I understand why people think they’re fun and they’re a tradition. But I didn’t do the garter toss because it makes me so uncomfortable and I think it’s tacky. I didn’t do the bouquet toss because when I was unmarried it was incredibly humiliating for me to go up there in front of everyone to compete for flowers because I was single. I already felt out of place enough without having to be part of that. So I don’t want to put anyone else through that if they feel the same way.

If you want to do them, go for it! We won’t be doing the garter toss, because like others have mentioned it’s really awkward and a little icky. We might not do a bouquet toss since I don’t have very many single friends, but can hopefully find another tradition to do instead

We are not doing a traditional toss to the singles but we will have a bouquet and garter set aside. After our last dance we are going to toss them at the same time into our crowd of guest as our grand exit as we leave the ballroom to go up to our hotel room. We have very few single people and when i went to weddings I always hated the bouquet toss.

I will be doing the bouquet toss! Most of my friends are not married, and I think it will be fun! As for the garter toss, I think we’ll skip it.

We are doing both at the same time and skipping him going up my dress. We will have both guys and girls standing and we will them back at the same time lol. He will have the garter in his pocket as I plan on giving it to him right before we are announced at the reception. I cringe when I see this done at receptions.

We didn’t do it, I feel like it’s a little outdated and I hate being in the spotlight like that lol

I didn't do either simply because I have never enjoyed them as a wedding guest, so I couldn't see the appeal as a bride.

We plan on doing both. We wont have many single people there so I think to get everyone involve we plan to tie some money to them and throw it.

View Quoted Comment I looove your photos! The football is a clever idea!

View Quoted Comment Clever idea!