Future sister in laws due date is just days before my wedding

Is moving your date even possible without losing a lot of money? If you have everything booked already, I wouldn’t change your date.

View Quoted Comment It is possible. Both the vendor and photographer have a matching date that would work to move it .

If it's stressing you out too much and your vendors are okay with moving the date, I assume you have not yet sent out invitations then sure move the date.

Unless you can move your date there's not a whole lot that you can do. Is she coming to the wedding? I would assume that she probably wouldn't or at least not stay for very long as she will be exhausted and probably still in a moderate amount of pain amongst other things that I won't go into details of. What is so stressful about it all? It seems pretty clear-cut to me

View Quoted Comment She would be coming to the wedding and her husband is supposed to be the best man. I'm a little stressed about it because I don't know if I should keep the date and risking she goes over her due date and has her baby on our day or if she would still be in the hospital when we get married. We are a very close family and I would hate to put my future mother and father in law in a position where the have to choose one event or the other. I hope that clears up my worries some. I guess I didn't word it out that well in my initial post

Yeah, if the date is already set and deposits have been made there isn't much you can do unless you don't mind losing the money. My friends sister's due date was within days of her wedding. Her sister ended up not going because the wedding was about 2 hours away from her doctor and she didn't want to risk it. Someone Skyped her into the wedding so she got to see everything. Baby came about 3 days later. It sucked but life happens, and no one was upset that the bride didn't move the date or her sister decided not to come.

View Quoted Comment If you really want her at your wedding and you want him in your wedding then you will have to move your date. Dont worry about your in-laws. A baby is for forever, a wedding is just one day and they will have to make that choice if the time comes.

My SIL was due five days before our date. We didn’t change our date. She had he baby a week before and opted not to come (brother did attend). Unless you are talking about moving your date by weeks/months you run the risk of her still not being able to attend or her having the baby on the new date.

It seems like you already are leaning towards moving the date, so what is stopping you? I understand your concern for moving it. I am asking about your hesitation to move it so that I can give advice. If that makes sense.

View Quoted Comment I'm more wanting to validate my concern to see if in fact it's not an overreaction on my part moving our date. I tend to be a bit more on the emotional side so I wanted to see what other people from the outside looking in had to say that weren't emotionally involved so I can make a logical decision. I hope that makes sense

How far would you be moving the date? if its just a week, your FSIL might not even come for various reasons. If its months out and you can move it without losing a substantial amount of money and its really important to both of you that shes there then I say move it. Good luck

If you can move your date without losing a lot of money and to a far enough away date where it won't interfere I'd just move it.

Babies are unpredictable- they can come a few weeks early or a few weeks late. Even if she did have the baby before the wedding there's a good chance she wouldn't come. And I wouldn't recommend taking a newborn < 1 month old anywhere as crowded as a wedding. If you're only going to move it one or two weeks then it may not end up being worth it. If you're doing several weeks later, it may be ok. Also, just talk to your FH and his sister and see what they think as well.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. I was trying to figure out your hesitation so as to answer it the best I could. I don't think you are overreacting. I think you are trying to be very considerate. I would simply caution that you also consider what, if any, burden it would place on your guests. Weigh that against the potential burden on your sister in law and other family members. Unless it would be a major burden on your guests, I think it would put your mind, as well as your in-laws' minds at ease.

Generally I would say not to move the date, but since your key vendors have another date open that you could easily move to, I think it makes sense to do that if it's not too stressful for you. Although as others have said, if it's only moving by a week or two there is no point, but if you're shifting a couple of months and you are 100% okay with moving your date by that much, then go for it.

I know of other situations where the husband was in a wedding while his wife was at the hospital either nearly having a child or having just given birth, so it's not unheard of for the man to attend even if his wife can't. This will be less of a possibility if they aren't local.

View Quoted Comment It wasn’t a concern for anyone but us and brother. Parents already said wedding first then baby visit if it ended up the same day. I don’t know if I would be worried about consideration. Chances are you had your date set before she was pregnant. If you are talking about only moving it a couple of weeks I wouldn’t. Baby could be late. She could still be in hospital. She may be too uncomfortable to attend.

If it's easy to move it, I would go ahead and do so in this case. It's not necessary but it's a nice gesture for her.

Thank you everyone for all your helpful input! We ended up pushing our date back over a month so hopefully that will make things less stressful! I really appreciate all the great advice and the kind words