Future mother-in-law wants her name on the invite...

Hello, reader!

So I have a tiny situation...my fiancé and I decided to DIY our invitations, as I’m quite the creative type and because of our needs and desires in regards to invites, it seemed the more practical route... I’m enjoying myself so far, anyway. So I decided I wanted to make an effort to make my future mother-in-law feel more included in the wedding planning, so I sent her a pictur of my design and asked what she thought...what I meant was “Is it pretty?” Haha...but she took that as an opportunity to express her opinion that her and her husband’s name should be on there too. Follow invitation etiquette, since my fiancé and I are footing the bill for the majority of it, with some contribution from my parents and siblings...We decided to go for our names on the invite along with “together with our families”...I quite like the way that sounds and feel it’s more inclusive of those who have contributed financially than to just list parents. Also, my parents are seperated now, and it just feels odd to place both my parents names together as if they were still married (My mom hasn’t gone back to her maiden name just yet).

My future in-laws are not contributing to our wedding because they don’t have anything to contribute. I don’t resent them for that, but I do resent the fact that she’s pressuring me to put her name on the invitation when she has not contributed. I find it quite tasteless. She says “it’s tradition”...but I’ve never been a traditional person. In fact, the only reason I will be wearing a white dress is because it was my fiancé wish that I wear white rather than gray or blue or black like some of the dresses I wanted to wear (lol).

Anyway, I am kind of just venting now...but has anyone had a similar issue? How do I tell her I won’t be including their names (or my parents names) on the invite without coming off as rude or defiant?

Am I being unreasonably snobbish? Please be gentle. 😥 I love my future mother-in-law even though we don’t always see eye to eyes and I think she oversteps boundaries sometimes, but I just don’t feel it right and I don’t want a super wordy invitation either!