Future Mother in Law not liking me ?

Hey ladies well i just talked to my fiance about this and basically i found she had asked him while he was visiting her last night asking if he had found anyone else and basically he said and he said felt pretty insulted she said that. My fiance told her that shes going to have to get over it because I will be apart of the family and even my fiances stepdad said the same thing. But basically he said we talk more about this when hes on the way home from his work trip tonight. Thankfully I got this off my chest and basically he agrees with me about it that he already told her shes going to have to get over it. The biggest he said is she needs to stop holding grudges. But thankfully I was able to talk to him about it a little today.

So sorry for what you are going though sometimes these things can happen with Mother In Laws. I was never really close with my Mother in law before my husband and I got married but we always got long pretty well. After My husband I got married I noticed a change in her behavior and she is showing Narcissistic tendencies. She decided to have surgery before Christmas and declined to do in patient care and expects my Husband to be at her every beck and call. She purposely spills things on the floor and demands that my husband come over immediately she even fell on purpose right in front of my sister in law so she could gain sympathy from her and my brother in law. She made a comment to me recently saying that she enjoys her sons company, I hope my son being over here all the time isn't effecting your marriage and smirked about it. She craves attention weather it's positive or negative she doesn't care as long as she gets attention. My husband and I were going out to dinner and have reservation and she purposely tried to keep us other there and make us late. She has become very toxic and this is not even the half of it.

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Thank you for understanding. It's been very hard at times because she won't even contact me directly she told my fiance to pass on a message from her about the way I text her saying that I can't text just one sentence at a time that I've got to text all of my message in one single text message. I understand that feelings were hurt but honestly it's been hard because the fact is that we've gotten past that it's been 4 months now and basically things are a lot better between me and my fiance and she will always see my fiance being the perfect son and me being this terrible person probably. I hope that things get better between me and her but if they don't I just want to focus on my future husband and our future marriage and not have to worry about what she thinks because at the end of the day I feel like you should respect your in-laws but it's not like you're marrying your in-laws you're marrying your husband or wife. I'm so sorry that you are going through that I hope my future mother-in-law won't be the same way when we're older and we're married it's been difficult but thankfully she doesn't live in the same state as us so I don't think my fiance will want us to move there for a while I really want to stay here where most of my friends and family are at and he has friends and family here too so I don't think we want to move to the state that she lives in.

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Your very welcome. Hang in there I pray things get better for you. And thank you for the kind words. I hope things change for us too.

View Quoted Comment You’re welcome. I know it’s really hard hard probably because you’re already married to your husband and it’s not easy dealing with a mother-in-law like that at least the biggest thing is that my future mother-in-law at least acknowledges me I guess in someway but my own mother doesn’t really care for my fiancé either so it kind of makes things difficult. But basically I am just hoping that your situation gets better and that basically you were able to have a easier relationship between you and your husband and things get better with your mother-in-law.