Future mil issues

Most times people don’t want to be told what to wear. Even telling someone what color to wear could be offensive. I understand it’s you alls wedding but if it’s an issue you should just let her wear what she want. It’s less drama and stress on you. I hope it all works out.

She can wear whatever she wants to her sons wedding. The parents don’t typically have to follow a color scheme

For every wedding I have been to the family follows a color scheme and she asked I told her

If she asked then that’s fine. However, telling her exactly what to wear isn’t okay. She should have the option of picking the dress she wants based on your colors.

View Quoted Comment I didn’t tell her exactly I guess I should make that clear I gave her a color and I told her I would like to be in the process. (She is in her 60s her granddaughter likes to dress her in clothes that are not age appropriate)

View Quoted Comment Gotcha! Yeah, I think it’s fine to be a part of the process. I don’t see that being an issue. You can make suggestions based on the dresses she choose and kinda go from there. I assume the granddaughter is pretty young. Is there a reason your MIL doesn’t want you to help?

View Quoted Comment She has never liked me she wants him with his ex. Her granddaughter is in her 20s but very immature.

View Quoted Comment Oh boy! What has your fiancé said about everything that’s going on? Are you and the granddaughter close?

View Quoted Comment I am not close with the granddaughter at all. His whole family but 2 people want him with his ex. I have his aunt trying to show her dress options I have picked without her know I picked them.

View Quoted Comment Oh good, well that’s helpful. It’s hard when family members aren’t accepting of the new partner. However, you’re the person he decided to marry.

View Quoted Comment We have been together for 7 years and have 3 kids together

She asked you the color and you told her; that's really all you can do. You're not in charge of what is and is not age appropriate. Lots of mothers and grandmothers don't want to dress in the matronly styles from the MOB section. As long as she's not planning to wear white, you just have to let this one go or you will only upset her 🤷🏼‍♀️

View Quoted Comment GIRL! 7 years and they still haven’t accepted you? Wow! How do you deal with it?

View Quoted Comment I try not to go around them and just ignore them when I do

View Quoted Comment Are they coming to the wedding? Or only the mom.

View Quoted Comment They were invited by him but they won’t show up because I am not having an open bar and if they do we have security

View Quoted Comment Oh okay. Geesh. I’m sorry you have to go through that.

Let your FI deal with his mother. You can't dictate to her what she wears or how she shops for an outfit, or even a colour. The only people you can plan the outfits for are the wedding party.

You're overstepping on this, in my opinion.

You are the one being disrespectful. You are not entitled to be there when she tries on dresses, decide who she goes with, choose what she wears, tell her what to wear, or be a "part of the process" in any way.


She asked you for a color, you gave it to her. You can offer suggestions and preferences. She is free to do what she wants with this information. She is a grown up. She gets to dress herself. She is not a bridesmaid who signed up to have you pick her dress. Trying on clothing in front of other people can be a very self conscious experience

View Quoted Comment She is very disrespectful and when comments are made she wants to dress like going to a funeral or wear all I will be there or she won’t attend she is not paying for a thing and is hurting her son