Future hubby helping out

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My FH has been great! We’ve been in this together and he’s been the rock and support I need in planning.
I may do the initial research, but he goes over the options with me.

As far as the little stuff goes FH is not on board lol but I trusted his decision on our wedding venue so he would have to get credit for picking it!

My fiance definitely gives his input on certain decisions but generally stays away from the actual planning, researching, keeping lists etc. That's all me!!

Mine is a damn Groomzilla. I love the man, but he is VERY picky about certain things. When we chose our venue, we were split. I loved one more and he loved another more. I thought for sure I was going to lose but I magically won that small hill we had to climb. But he has a lot of opinions on nearly everything so I have to run everything by him. It is nice to have him so into helping with the planning though. He gets mad when people say, “it’s all about the bride that day” because it’s his day too, and he’s 100% right. So I am glad that he has insight.

Nope 🙃 I have to pry opinions and force him to help with decisions. No I won’t plan the whole thing myself since it’s OUR wedding not MY wedding. So I do the heavy research parts and make him give opinions, even if it’s just deciding between two things.

Mine is proving to be more helpful than I expected, but at the same time is kind of causing more work and stress for me. He has been extremely helpful in coming up with ideas and suggestions, but when I assign him a small task or tell him to make a decision between the options we have something narrowed down to it takes him FOREVER.

I asked him for contact info for his side of our guest list so I could send out our save the dates, and it took 6 weeks before I got it. I also only got it then because I said I would get them from his mother instead, who he doesn't want to have very involved in the wedding planning.

Sure did. I made all arrangements but I included him as well. It was fun.

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This is us too - my fiance hasn't had strong feelings about most things but I definitely want his input on everything (except what I'm wearing). He has very strong feelings about the music so he made the final decision about the DJ and he's given some input on food; we are doing a late night nacho bar - it was the first food item we ever shared and it's also one of his favorites!

And in the areas that he really doesn't care (colors, for example since he's partially color-blind), I just tell him. But we agreed we wouldn't spend any money or hire anyone without both feeling comfortable about it.

Mine is 100% involved and I'm enjoying the experience. We go to appointments, bridal shows, and even dress shopping together. He was one who found my dream dress! Thank goodness he took a lot a chair shots to the head (retired pro wrestler) so he doesn't remember the details of my dress.

He tries, LOL. I've agreed to incorporate a couple ideas he was really excited about because it's his day too, even though I'm not as excited about them. They'll make him happy, which makes me happy. But most 90% has been my decisions because as in the move "The Wedding Planner", he is NID (Not Into Details). :-D I've definitely had to shoot down a number of outrageous, expensive or totally inappropriate suggestions for a wedding. I'm 90% sure he just made some of them just to tease me.

I do solicit his opinion on things that I'm unsure of, I think he might care about, or that adds to our costs (photog, dj, DOC, food), but it usually comes down to him telling to do what I want once we agree on costs. We picked the venue together before we ever got engaged and that was our very first decision the day we got engaged, and we agreed on the first dance to "our" song. He was responsible for his guys' suits. Flowers, decor, music selection (we have similar musical taste), etc has all been my choice.

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Haha...I'm definitely more organized and into the planning too. I'm a project manager by trade so it pretty ingrained in my personality at this point. Thankfully he appreciates my planning skills and contributes where I ask for his opinions. I do regularly check in with him on my choices to make sure he's ok with them, and make a point of asking if he has any ideas or asks/wants that he feels strongly about including somewhere for him.

I'm recently engaged. My fiance isn't interested in all the "cute" stuff. He has a few must have and that's it. He does give his input when asked.

My FH has been super helpful and involved. I'm taking the lead on some tasks and he is taking the lead on others, but we are keeping one another in the loop and aside from my bridal look, we've discussed all the things with one another. We're on the same page about pretty much everything, and if there has ever been something I need his help with, he jumps right in.

Mine is the best for telling me his opinion on what I have chosen which is great. He will be in charge of the music because he loves it. Food and cake is also a joint thing. I am leaving the menswear to him too

My FH is involved with many of our wedding decisions and also payments. He is also the one who wanted the big wedding so I'm guessing he stays involved due to my initial non interest in the big wedding. Everyone is different also, his involvement isn't over the top, it's his thoughts when I ask his opinion on things and he asks me how things are coming with my bridal party, flowers, etc.