Future crazy in-laws

Ok well I'll clarify a bit, because we realize we did some things wrong but they blew it way out of proportion. The original date was October 22nd, then we were asked (more told) to move it just 2 weeks. So we asked his mother nov 5th or nov 12th, she said either was fine as long as the church is open. We chose the 5th and now she is upset because the churches sausage supper is that SUNDAY, the 6th, and doesn't affect anyone in the family, but some people we might want to invite from church could be resting that day. The crazy has mostly come from her. We understand that we aren't perfect and are trying to make things as good as possible, but I was finishing college so didn't have a huge amount of time to visit and talk with them. She counted the number of times she had met me, and made a list of those times, to tell my FH that she didn't know me well enough. In our opinion, as long as we know each other well enough, that is the important part because we are the ones getting married. She knows me, and can continue to get to know me throughout our lives, but there's no way she is going to be satisfied before the wedding and I can only do so much. I completely understand that we have been in the wrong, and we have corrected what we can. But there has to be a line because they have to know they can't walk all over us. No one has taken my family into account at all. They are the ones who are gonna have to travel- Texas to St. Louis

My relationship with my MIL greatly improved after our wedding. Although I do think you should have run a few dates past them before settling. We checked with all our VIP's before settling on our date.

I'm with you Kara! I know people think I'm overreacting, but A Bride can smell the crazy on her!

You've already changed your date once to accommodate MIL's wishes and checked with her before deciding on a new date, but now she wants to revoke her approval and make you move it again? Maybe she didn't know about the baby, but at some point you need to draw a line so you can start contacting vendors and your family can arrange travel and transportation.

And back to the baby again, but who knows when he/she will arrive. Could be 4 weeks early, could be 2 weeks late, why not just black out all of October and November? and December too for safe measure because of Christmas and resting up for future sausage cookouts (sarcasm) but we both know MIL will find something to complain about any day you pick.

Pick and choose your battles I guess, but I'd honestly be glad to be moving away after dealing with her making you jump through hoops to please her. Once you do decide on a date, stop that info train. She'll have an opinion about everything.