Frustration about being engaged to a military guy

For planning the wedding I research everything, take pics and send him lots of emails with links and pictures so he can see and offer his input. Its actually been a huge help.

We aren't doing pre-marital classes. Our pastor agreed to do everything in one session the day before the wedding. You can also do it over the phone if time permits.

Its not easy but hang in there! *hugs*

I completely know what you mean, it's even harder for FH and I because we're both in the military and always going somewhere. Towards the beginning we had to change the date 3 times and we've been engaged for a year now with the wedding 18 days away. It's possible, but very very frustrating for sure!!

Well...as a active duty military Sailor myself...I can just tell you to have patience and be flexible. If you haven't learned yet..you will...the needs of the Navy come first (according to the Navy). I know its frustrating..my FH is active duty too and we are geographically separated but its a part of this life. I would just ask you to try to understand and most importantly keep supporting your FH during this stressful time for you both. Changing jobs because you are being forced to is also stressful and he will have to adjust to a new career field. Have you considered the JOP until there is a more stable time to plan a wedding? I've lived this life for almost 20 years not as a spouse or fiance but as a mother and understand the sacrifice..and I'm here if you need to vent some more.

Thanks Lilly, I just hope I don't have to postpone for his school and I dunno where he will transfer to. Pictures might be difficult because he leave for deployment this month :-( How did you do it? I realized that I have to accept many difficulties to be a wife to Navy and most people who are not in military or married to one don't see how hard it is that they hate military ugh. I live in Seattle where people hate military. So I ha

Thank guys and wow I can't imagine to be active duty too and be engaged to one as well, that must be even harder! Props to you guys.

What is JOP? I am always very supportive of him, it just today I lost it because I changed wedding date 3 times.

Thanks but its worth it!!! It always angers me beyond belief when I hear of people who are unappreciative of the everyday sacrifices of the troops serving in the military!!!! You may not agree with everything we are charged to do but we are protecting and defending the freedoms (sometimes with our lives) we are able to enjoy so much!! Sorry, I'm off my soapbox....God bless the troops!!

I'm sorry, I know it's so frustrating. I will have to do most of the planning in FH's absense. When will you know for sure if you have to reschedule?

Amen Jones, my parents are in AF well my mom was until later. I have so many family members that was in military and are in military, so trust me I know what you mean. Fins thats a great question, I should ask my FH that.

We are planning our wedding from one end of the world to the other (im in CA fh is on deployment in Afghanistan) and its hard but with emails and internet it is a lot easier....dont elope if thats not truly what you want to do...patience is big when dealing with a fh in the military so i say just be patient and see where things go....things always work out for the better whether you see it at that very moment or it takes longer....hang in there...

And i second me&mr jones....

GOD BLESS ALL OF OUR TROOPS!!

and their families standiing behind them

Oh yes I am learning a lot to be very patient and I never been a patient person lol. But I gotta admit that my FH is worth it. Yes God Bless our Troops! :-)

Not gonna lie, FMN, it sucks! LOL. FH will have his 20 years in at the end of June, and then he is DONE! Woohooo!!! Flexibility is key.

Girl I am so sorry to hear that! It's hard to plan pre martial counseling for me too because we are in a LDR!! We are trying to figure it out how that would work...Patient had become a good quality of mine...so like you said we gotta learn to become very patient!!!

LOL lucky you Jenn :-P he would be in reserves if I wanted him to, but I think he should stay as active for now and we will see about later. Aww FMM, I am also in LDR as well.

See we have more things in COMMON!!!!!!! hehehe

JOP is Justice of the Peace....courthouse. Just an option.

Make sure to tell anyone who is in need of a wedding- if you or your fiance is in active military, tell them to go to this link and register before JULY 30TH for a FREE wedding and up to 50 guests in many different counties in NC on Veteran's Day~ http://www.operationmmm.com/files/contestantentry.pdf

We will be a planning a wedding in the Charlotte- Mecklenburg area and want to make sure to get the word out there. WE all appreciate all that you do!!