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Molly, on January 19, 2020 at 10:43 AM Posted in Planning 0 3

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So we have been planning this wedding for over a year now. The wedding in 11/07/20. From the start we said no kids. We had a budget and felt that without kids it So's cut cost. Now FH wants kids at the wedding because he comes from a large Latino family and feels that it would put too much of a burden to find a sitter. We had wanted to only invite 100 people but to make our minimum we have increased it to 120.

I'm frustrated because now I have to go back and add kids to my side of the family. We are looking at 150 people total and $2,000 more than expected. I'm upset because this should of been decided a long time ago but FH was dragging his heels on his list.

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Latest activity by Clíodhna, on January 29, 2020 at 7:53 AM

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Molly · on January 19, 2020 at 10:57 AM
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To add more. I would of been okay with it from the start because we are paying the venue in payments. Adding more people means that we have larger payments as the wedding gets closer.
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Joanna · on January 19, 2020 at 12:46 PM
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I'm sorry that this is frustrating, I would be overwhelmed as well. Maybe see if you two could compromise and only invite niece's and nephews, and not invite your friends' kids or any cousins' kids. Just the immediate family kids.

I know that this is adding extra costs that you wanted to avoid, but the children that are being invited are from both of your families. It might have felt incomplete if the kids weren't there. Instead of seeing this as a burden, I hope you'll see it as exciting for everyone - imagine the fun pictures! For me at least, it would be hard to not invite any of my FH's and my nieces and nephews, as they are such a big part of our lives. But everyone is different.

I hope this helps. Good luck!!
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Clíodhna · on January 29, 2020 at 7:53 AM
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That is super frustrating, Molly. I’m sorry it has added an extra burden and worry to your planning
As Joanna mentioned, perhaps there is a compromise where you can cut the kid's guest list just at nieces and nephews? Have you discussed this?
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