Frustrated with my venue manager

Yup another complaint lol

I have to start by saying that the venue has been very flexible with payments which is a huge plus. However, we met with the venue manager in April to discuss centerpieces, the menu, etc. A lot of things I wanted to go over like final prices with add-ons at least an estimate and seating arrangements, etc she kept saying it was too early. Ok so I let it go. Last weekend I again asked her about seating and the table positions after asking on more than one occasion where and how the tables will go so I can arrange guests. I sent her a provisional seating chart and she responded with "perfect!" Because I thought she can read it well and ready to meet with her boss to discuss tables. Four days pass, it's Tuesday of this week and I ask her if she was able to discuss with her boss. She tells me it's too fuzzy and can't read my chart AND her boss never showed up Saturday but might see her that day.... Ok why didn't you tell me it wasn't legible??

So I redid the seating chart I rearranged guests and everything because all the large tables have to go towards the front and the smaller ones towards the back. I even provided her with a full day of schedule, vendors information, and everything with our information pertaining to our day. She replies that she needs me to fill out our function sheet, which I know I did for sure when we booked them, she says she can't find it... But why do I have an original which was scanned and sent my email..? So I redo it and resend it. Then I mentioned not everyone drinks Champagne, do guests just grab as they go around or do we notify which tables prefer champagne, she said they serve both in every table and calculated for 88 guests including FH & Myself, for $391.60. I'm not thrilled to spend almost $400 on a toast when I know a chunk of people do not drink champagne, so I asked if we can only do cider. Hopefully this reduces the cost by half, still waiting for a reply. And we are not allowed to bring anything from outside, not even our own cider or champagne. So hopefully she doesn't try to debate me on doing both because I found a 12 pack of cider on Amazon for $63.99, at most they only need 3 cases of 12. The day we met in April, I told her I had 5 of my own DIY CPs and we'd use the other 4 from the venue, we told her which one we wanted and of course.... She asked again what we chose to go with... Lastly she needs the final payment before the 7th of June which is fine but how do I know what my final payment is if you're still asking me about add-ons, when we last saw each other I said I wanted to rent the venue arch for the ceremony which is $75, and she still hasn't included that.

A bit frustrated here with 20 something days to go. She is a much older woman so I am trying to be patient but I've tried to discuss a lot of these things over the last 4 weeks to avoid this last minute stuff.