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Frustrated and disappointed of wedding dances

Natt, on June 21, 2019 at 11:40 AM Posted in Planning 0 1
We found a dance teacher to teach us our first dance as well as our father daughter dance. I was concerned since my father does not live in the are and she assured us it wouldn’t be a problem she could teach us a song in 1 lesson and I could go to my dads and teach it to him (this was before we even started any lessons) on our 1st lesson we talked most of the time since she wanted to get to know us and learn about our dance so we used up most of that lesson and were able to dance for about 15-20 minutes. each lesson is 45 min which I felt like didn’t give us much time to learn something but I trusted her she mentioned most people need 5 lessons for a song and right away FH said we are willing to do extra if needed (huge mistake). the next lesson was learning what we should have learned the 1st lesson we were already behind. each lesson was spend 20 minutes reviewing what we learned the last class and what we should have learned last class and 20 minutes learning something new. Her teaching method was give us random dance moves and told us we would put them together at the end I’m not a dancer so I trusted the process not knowing there were so many more dance moves. When I mentioned I wasn’t a fan of a move she continued to push to keep going with what we had already learned. She normally rapped things up with asking us if we wanted to record at the end of each lesson so I have the proof we did not progress at all. Around the 4th lesson we finally tried to put all the dance steps in an order to come up with a routine only to find out I hated most of the moves. throughout the whole time I kept thinking it would look better once we have a routine and perfect our moves and It never got better. When we finally mentioned what moves we liked and didn’t and showed her videos of moves we liked she told us the reason we didn’t like it was because we picked a bad song. she also kept emailing and texting us to let her know if we wanted to cancel the rest of the lessons like if she wanted to get rid off us. We spend a lot of time and money on this teacher we are not about to throw it all away and start from scratch so we tabled that song and processed to learn our upbeat song (1st dance was going to be half slow dance half upbeat) . We booked a double lesson so we had more time and we finally learned something on our 5th and 6th lesson we added extra lessons since we obviously needed it and added an extra one for our father daughter dance when she realized the last one was for father daughter dance she sounded surprised like she thought we canceled that for some reason and told me I should just forget about it and sway back and forth with him. Wedding is 2 weeks away so we came up with a small routine ourselves and showed her what we came up with she didn’t change anything and didn’t really help us improve anything so I’m just so frustrated

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Latest activity by Clíodhna, on June 24, 2019 at 9:21 AM
  • Clíodhna
    WeddingWire Administrator January 2030
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    Hi there Natt!

    I’m really sorry to hear about how disappointed you are, it definitely sounds like a frustrating situation.

    I’m happy you and your FS spoke up and addressed the moves you didn’t like. Did she give you alternative ones, or tweak the dance to take them out?

    How are you feeling about performing both the dances on the wedding day at this point? Is this teacher someone you’re going to at a dance studio? Could you call the studio and ask if there is another instructor available? Since it sounds like this teacher has her own agenda that doesn’t mesh with yours, maybe a crash course with another instructor could help you right the ship.

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